Can Someone Promise Me

BuyerOfCoins · 2018-05-24T22:33:46+00:00

You're doing things systematically. It doesn't work for everyone. Actually LIVE EVERY approach you do. From what you wrote it seems you are doing these approaches in some robotic way.

Aside from that, work on yourself. It seems you got some issues going on. If you don't yet, 'get a life' meaning, get hobbies and things to do. Right now it seems you are focussed solely on approaching and women. Women can smell that, it's true!
Look, I get it. But the first step is realizing that rejection is just part of a learning process. One person learns faster than the other. Analyze your approaches, what can you improve, but DON'T overanalyze things

billiam632 · 2018-05-25T01:37:44+00:00

If you can still count how many rejections you've gotten then you ain't even close kid. Most of us have been doing this for years and are probably on rejection 1000+

18 girls weren't interested in you? If that's enough to hurt your self confidence then you've got a lot more to work on. No one can fix you but yourself. Practicing the approach does 2 things. It helps you get used to rejection and it allows you to practice whatever aspect of your game you are trying to improve. Don't just walk up and say the same shit every time and expect improvements. You think Kobe got better by practicing the same shot over and over again without any adjustments or creativity?

Think of something to say. Don't know if it will work or not? Try it out. Try pretending you're in the military and about to be deployed on your next approach. After that pretend you're a rich trust fund kid who is really obnoxious and annoying. Try things that you think won't work and see what happens. You're not supposed to play it safe when you're practicing. Go out there and embarrass yourself for fucks sake. Embrace the shame and let it mold you. That's how you improve. That's how you find your voice and your confidence. Go make a fool of yourself and come back here and let us know how it went.

MisterRight1 · 2018-05-25T06:01:16+00:00

This is not the right question to ask. You could theoretically do this forever and never improve. You're practicing, so the question you should be asking yourself is this: "Am I practicing the correct things? "

Here's what you should be consciously practicing (in order from most important to least)

Eye contact
Conversation threading
Escalation
Closing

Let me know if you need guides on the four above and I can pm you some (though it might take me a minute to find) . And as others have said, as you practicing these things you'll learn something else: rejection ain't shit.

ThrowawayPUA · 2018-05-25T00:49:19+00:00

Someone can promise you: yourself.

ladenseye · 2018-05-25T00:35:35+00:00

Keep on going at it. It will get easier. Other than that I'd say do the approach with no expectations. Only be passionately curious about what will happen. You have the utmost if control over what you do and that's it.

BigBoyCaliphate · 2018-05-25T01:59:47+00:00

Failed approach? Think about it, ponder it, extract what you can learn. 3 steps: Detach, Look, Refine.

u4redterr · 2018-05-25T02:49:50+00:00

Practise in your mirror at home

Lord_Augastus · 2018-05-25T03:16:44+00:00

Aside from approaching, what else are you doing?

Are you going out to be social, make friends with guys and girls (and with girls escalating) or are you just going out with sole purpose of getting sex?

Are you also working on your personal self, like hobbies, appearance, health and body, work, learning/attitudes. After all just approaching is part of it, the other part is making you the best version of you, and not a mask you put on for the approach. You need to invest in yourself, once you feel like you love you, others will too.

bluedholia · 2018-05-25T04:26:53+00:00

You’ll be fine in a few months keep it up broski

Fudo_Shin · 2018-05-25T08:14:25+00:00

That is their Problem, they are missing out time with a cool guy like you, dont let them destroy your confidence :)

RafaelNo · 2018-05-25T13:49:14+00:00

You have no one but yourself to hold accountable. Promises are easily broken, commitments are what make a man. You have to commit yourself to your convictions and hold yourself to your own standards. No one can improve you for yourself. You have taken the first steps. Now assess your weaknesses and strengths and improve yourself. Stop the unhealthy shit, keep up the shit that works and commit to your own betterment as a man. Good luck.

acquired_ · 2018-05-25T15:13:37+00:00

Should probably stop counting. You're taking things personaly

TheXXL · 2018-05-25T15:25:26+00:00

I promise!

Seriously... I can promise you at least one thing: if you don't try you will never succeed.

Frogman2344 · 2018-05-25T01:58:03+00:00

I’m not just being a chump and lying to make you feel better, I’m a pretty brutally honest guy but I guarantee it will work eventually.

I know no one likes to hear this no matter how true it is, but if you self improve yourself you will naturally gain charisma and charm.

For example I lost weight and put on muscle and now girls give me tons of attention and I became so much more confident and can flirt and talk to girls like it’s nothing now. So I promise you that if you self improve your body, face, style, hair, you will naturally become confident.

Title	Can Someone Promise Me
Author	lolabc12345
Upvotes	27
Comments	17
Date	May 24, 2018 9:34 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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