I'm about to be a 27 year old virgin, should I go have sex just to get the monkey off my back even though im not really interested in casual sex?

pdx-Psych · 2018-08-17T04:01:42+00:00

I’d recommend it. If you were my little brother and I knew you were a decent person, I’d host a party, invite a cute girl and try to set you up together. The issue I see for later life virgins isn’t so much they finally find someone and it doesn’t work because they’re inexperienced sexually, people can be pretty forgiving of that. It’s that a lot of potential life-partners buckle under the pressure of finding out that their interest is a virgin, and trust me, for girls, there can be immense pressure of being someone’s first time. So yes, man up, go pursue a cute girl and try to woo her.

And yes, be concerned about STD’s, at least enough to carry protection. C’mon man...

DaddyB0d · 2018-08-17T13:19:49+00:00

Yes.

No masturbation for at least a week prior- you don't want PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction) to cause any performance issues.

Set your expectations low.

Use condoms.

Cevar7 · 2018-08-17T09:50:37+00:00

Sex isn’t as great as they tell you it is. Riding a rollercoaster is more fun for me tbh. Don’t worry about it. Still work on your social skills and try to engage with the women though. Don’t dismiss it.

InscrutablePUA · 2018-08-17T01:29:04+00:00

What's your current situation - do you live in a city, which country etc. Are there younger single girls around? Do you have girl friends? Good guy friends? Are you in school or working? Do you lift? Are you average looking or below or above average? How tall?

Assuming you're an average dude, one option is to simply fix other aspects of your life first. Start lifting, get your career in order, fix your diet, grooming etc. Then start getting on dating apps to get some dates and some lays.

You could also just get on some dating apps, or go out to nearby bars and clubs and start chatting up chicks. Read some pickup books for advice on the 'mechanics' of picking up girls. Universities are great for this.

Honestly, you don't have to be chad to get laid. I know plenty of average, even below average guys who got laid with decent chicks. First step is being present - if you're not there talking to her you won't get laid. Second step is an amused mastery attitude with kino. Third is to move the interaction forward to her place. Keep at it, you'll get there.

nastyamerican · 2018-08-17T09:46:50+00:00

Yes.

Otherwise the probability of falling in love with your first sex partner is high. The probability of this partner not being a good match for you is high. The probability that you’ll spend entirely too much time trying to make it work because they’re your first is also very high.

Unless you’re you’re trying to have children most sex is casual.

qwdweferg123 · 2018-08-17T02:17:45+00:00

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VelociraptorReptar · 2018-08-17T03:56:12+00:00

I disagree with this subreddit on somethings and I dont think you should lose your virginity to a ONS or a random person maybe a fwb would be nice because they're a friend first then a benefit. But I'm 18 now and I always wanted to lose my virginity (still haven't but have had a few opportunities) I recently got in a relationship and wanted her to be my first but we broke up and I dont think I'd want to have aex with a hookup or something. I feel like I need the emotional connection or it just meaningless sex. Virginity is just a social construct, they'res nothing wrong with being a virgin till you die, it just depends on what you put importance on in your life. I'd say try to approach women and start trying to build a relationship with them and see where it leads. I'd you're and average looking dude with a nice, outgoing personality 5hen you'll get a lay easily but I really recommend you stay a virgin until you feel it's the right time to lose it. Just my 2 cents m8, best wishes! Sorry for the horrible grammar on mobile and quite lazy.

qwdweferg123 · 2018-08-17T11:38:34+00:00

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lordkin · 2018-08-17T10:54:21+00:00

Hey, yes you should. It'll help you realize that it;s no big deal

whosaccisthis94 · 2018-08-17T14:42:22+00:00

Just get an escort and get it over and done with.

elpuxus · 2018-08-17T15:38:34+00:00

Just go to a hooker if the sex part is worrying you that much

Messisfoot · 2018-08-17T16:18:57+00:00

Get it over with. Your first time is nothing special and the fact that your a virgin will likely be the first thing on your mind any time you meet a girl and hit it off.

Get it over with so you can move on to the other parts of relationships.

Justify_87 · 2018-08-17T16:35:40+00:00

/r/seduction will help you

TibetanWisdom · 2018-08-19T06:47:28+00:00

No. If you feel pressured to have sex due to society, then it will not give you any real gratification. Dont put pressure on virginity, its just a concept. Anyways follow ur heart bro

Cezh_work_GSD_Scout · 2018-08-17T05:05:19+00:00

If you have sex, oral, vaginal or anal, then it counts and had that chick not been Christian then you would have gotten some pussy. Stop downplaying yourself.

2018-08-17T04:10:11+00:00

How about you just date like normal people, and have sex when both sides are interested.

MAGIGS · 2018-08-17T08:19:20+00:00

How do you know for sure you AREN’T into casual sex. If you haven’t had it yet...

stampyvanhalen · 2018-08-17T08:20:12+00:00

BonvivantNamedDom · 2018-08-17T10:16:28+00:00

"living with a married couple" I never called my parents that.

And if you dont want sex, leave it be. But it may change your world.

VelociraptorReptar · 2018-08-17T08:18:44+00:00

What the fuck.. I’ve been banging bitches since I was in 8th grade. First girl I made a mess all over my pants before I even got it in. My first girl was my aunt of 26 years old. Not blood related. That lead me down a self destructive path but long story short. Go on tnaboard.com and hire a great looking escort. Something edible and top end. Great great women on there

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