Tinder question

guymanthing · 2015-02-25T22:41:40+00:00

My formula is as follows from the very first message:

Me: you know what sounds good?

Her: what?

Me: Me, you, and some coffee

Works 75% of the time

tombreck2 · 2015-02-25T16:39:40+00:00

That means they aren't interested and want validation from you.

Move on to the next one.

Better yet, go outside and approach girls in person where they can see your body language, voice tonality, non-neediness, etc.

secret_barber · 2015-02-25T17:01:29+00:00

I steer the conversation toward

Don't have conversations. You should aim to have the number ASAP. Make her laugh once or twice and tell her to give you her number. "let's move to text. give me your number"

Once you get the number. Confirm who you are and suggest a date immediately. "lets meet for a drink and some laughs - Time & Place"

Save the conversations for when you are face to face - where you can laugh and touch.

colucci · 2015-02-25T21:14:02+00:00

Most of the advice you got here is dogshit if you ask me.

One of the commenters here suggest to try to get numbers ASAP, make her laugh once or twice and suggest to meet up immediately. That strategy is obviously hook-up oriented, and due to how females work, asking to see the person so fast will result in a painfully high rejection rate. Ugly, handsome, rich, poor - you're decreasing your likelihood of getting a date by asking her out as soon as possible.

On the other hand, if you talk to her too much before going on a date, she might lose interest. Too slow can be bad as much as too fast can be bad.

Essentially, the best advice I can give you is to use your own discretion. There is no 'right' answer.

Nonetheless, the fact that the majority say that they'd like to know you better online means you're going way too fast. Slow the fuck down.

As for the what to do when you get that response - act indifferent. In my experience, it's a lost cause because she basically challenges you to 'prove your worth'. What I do in this case is just put her on the backburner and don't give her much attention as much as I did before. Chances are nothing is coming out of it anyway.

TRPdating · 2015-02-25T17:10:25+00:00

If you can be certain to remove anything that would lead to doxxing (names, schools, meetups, phone numbers, etc), I'd like to see some screenshots of your chats. Probably the best way to help you is to see how you're performing.

intelcorei5 · 2015-02-26T20:56:24+00:00

The serious ones makes their intentions clear pretty quickly.

There is no game. Find the ones who aren't there to waste your time.

Tindalls · 2015-02-27T03:41:41+00:00

Thanks for all the advice. I'll try to keep these responses in mind.

I do have a good news update: There was one match from earlier this week who didn't give me the 'get to know you better' response. I was worried she would flake, but we met up today and she was dtf. Good times. My first from Tinder.

kingofpoplives · 2015-02-25T18:03:03+00:00

Is that basically a no?

Yea, it means low interest.

When a girl says something like that to me, I'll usually say "OK sure" and then go quiet.

If she is actually motivated to get to know you, she will make some effort to chat with you more. If she does I will chat back a bit, but most of them don't.

Title	Tinder question
Author	Tindalls
Upvotes	11
Comments	22
Date	February 25, 2015 4:37 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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