Our mind can help us achieve incredible things. At the same time, it can stop us from even starting on doing what we want.

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I was at the bar the other day with a guy. He is divorced and currently in his 40s. He said he is too old to get hot women, but he remembers the "good ol' days" when he could. This, of course, just doesn't help him much, does it? If you don't believe in yourself, then why would women like you?

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But most importantly, I think that sets him up for failure in general. He just doesn't live at his potential. He just didn't care much anymore, stuck at the same job, no hobbies, just goes to the bar to drink.

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I then pointed at a TV, where some famous not-so-young (older than him) singer was performing: "Do you think many young women want to bang that guy?". He said "of course a lot want to, but he has money!"

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I shook my head. I guess there's no point in arguing with someone who already has his mind made, but hey, they're our own personal choices on how to think and act.

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It's not about the money

Women don't have sex with your money. Women don't have sex with your car. Women are generally not attracted to your money (see how I said "generally"), or not at least the ones who are worth your time.

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We can generalize to an extent that women feel attracted to power. The money and the car are just the outcomes of what power can do. If you make a lot of money, I'm damn sure it doesn't come from a guy who just sits in his couch and does nothing. There's some value he brings in the world, and women would want that man to bring that value to them.

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Of course there are gold diggers and bad women, just as much as there are bad men. It's your job later on to know which ones are good for you.

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Until then, it should be your most important goal to:

  1. Become a man of value
  2. Find things you are passionate about and do them
  3. Take care of your body, of your image
  4. Dress and smell well

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Women will come to you.