Have I been misinterpreting Models by Mark Manson?

ImmediateDisaster6 · 2019-10-24T00:12:50+00:00

Don't confuse showing weakness with vulnerability.

yrogerg123 · 2019-10-23T23:46:41+00:00

You need to couple that feeling of vulnerability with actual personal development.

AKA: do the work, go through the struggle, and kill that anxiety.

You know why I don't feel anxiety at work? Because I've had extremely tough jobs, and this isn't one of them. I've had extreme stress, and this isn't real stress. I've burned out, I've flamed out, I've gotten fired. And I'm better and stronger, more knowledgeable and more talented for all of it.

You know why I don't feel anxiety with a woman? Because I've had hotter, and I've been hurt deeply. I've had a hotter woman that I loved, tell me she loved me, and later tell me she hates me.

And I came out the other side, harder and stronger, smile and sense of humor intact.

I think the key is, be honest and vulnerable, so it doesn't seem like you're hiding something. But anxiety is unattractive, and you need to attack that shit head on. If you need to speak with a therapist or be medicated, then do it. Stare your flaws in the face, accept them, and fix them. That's attractive.

smoothmax · 2019-10-23T22:32:55+00:00

I kind of ignored most of that part of Models, about being honest and vulnerable. Not that I act like a dishonest hard-ass, but this advice didn't pass my gut check.

Fortunately I read lots of other books on self improvement and dating ... keeping the best parts and ignoring the ideas that seemed not so good.

I dislike when guys get on here and push one particular book as "all you need". It's simple minded and it can slow down guys' progress.

A_solo_tripper · 2019-10-23T23:20:11+00:00

How I am interpreting the book so far is just being more open and transparent, and putting yourself out there... laying it all on the line, if you will.

I am not overly impressed with the book. Definitely not a page turner. I get the feeling that the author used one experience as to justify the whole theme. I don't get the sense that the author actually tried or had experience with the multitude of ways to accomplish his goals. At the same time, I feel like the method or intention is good. I think it is better to be honest than dishonest, better to be forthcoming than deceitful, etc.

rich_god · 2019-10-24T06:50:53+00:00

Honesty and vulnerability come with loving yourself. It really pays off.

greatlifeahead · 2019-10-24T06:31:11+00:00

Do you set boundaries? You counter being vulnerable by setting boundaries.

Thegame0123 · 2019-10-24T18:14:17+00:00

Okay I appreciate it I'll get those two on Audible.

Kitt_55 · 2019-10-25T11:36:31+00:00

A video which explains the difference between good and bad vulnerability.

Showing Vulnerability: Is It An Attractive Trait?

Thegame0123 · 2019-10-26T11:07:33+00:00

It sounds so simple but that's a hard one to grasp for me personally.

asiam_man · 2019-10-24T18:03:21+00:00

You are way below the level you need to be before you can show vulnerability. Manson's point is that when you're so self confident that you don't care if people see your weakness then you're showing true strength.

First, you have to become more comfortable with yourself.

Title	Have I been misinterpreting Models by Mark Manson?
Author	Wrathful_Buddha
Upvotes	12
Comments	21
Date	October 23, 2019 10:10 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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