Should you approach a girl who saw you get rejected harshly by another girl in the club/bar?

br0j1tsu · 2019-11-17T05:34:58+00:00

"woah did you see that?" there you go, an opener...

FairAnalyst · 2019-11-17T16:03:05+00:00

Sure why not?

I’ve switched girls in mid-conversation when one turned me down. Like if I was after girlA and she rejected me, I started going after her friend.

This is not quite your question, but it still applies. Girls are different people - even if they’re friends.

I’ve also been in a situation where I was wing. The main opener guy managed to hook the group and we had split up their attention on different guys. But the main guy was getting pretty harshly rejected so he tells me to switch with him. I switch and next thing I know he’s made out with his girl and we’re pulling them. Oh and this was in a bookstore.

asiam_man · 2019-11-17T06:24:03+00:00

Sure, why not? You laughed when you got rejected, right?

Pretty-Robot · 2019-11-17T03:29:44+00:00

I think it’ll probably look desperate.

RoguePuppy913 · 2019-11-17T03:34:15+00:00

Yea, probably not, at least not right away. Give it some time..get another drink, play some pool or darts, then approach. Even then she might get "offended" she's your second choice...ladies be weird sometimes...

yrogerg123 · 2019-11-17T04:42:31+00:00

Honestly, if you like the way she looks, just approach her. It doesn't have to be "first choice" and "second choice," you just go to bars to meet people, you happened to see the other girl first, went to say hi, she was rude so you moved right on and saw somebody else you wanted to meet. It's pretty easy to reframe it in your favor.

You can reframe anything in your favor, it's a pretty good habit.

2019-11-17T05:36:02+00:00

Of course, as long as you find the girl attractive. Don’t worry about what she or other people are thinking, approach.

HeavenPiercingMan · 2019-11-17T06:28:34+00:00

Again, if you do it, you should be doing it for YOURSELF instead of being concerned about the girl judging you.

You want to like the girl, you approach her to find out - you should be the owner of your life. If she judges you badly, you wouldn't like her anyway isn't it? So it's not another rejection, it'd be a failure to measure up to your standards.

Always reframe interactions to put yourself in control. Be a bit selfish and hedonistic, enough to externalize your wants and desires. You don't have to live up to anyone's standards, they have to do it.

ChrisDarmount · 2019-11-17T07:44:19+00:00

Yes. Generally you should approach anyone you want. The exception would be if you just did a good approach that you think might go somewhere, don’t do another one right in front of her.

scarrax · 2019-11-18T15:10:51+00:00

If I felt like it then sure why not? If she comments on what happened I’d just laugh it off. If she asks why I “chose” the other girl first I’d reply with something like “Sometimes you save the best for last”

Title	Should you approach a girl who saw you get rejected harshly by another girl in the club/bar?
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Date	November 17, 2019 3:22 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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