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Few Know thing about CONFIDENCE

Evan87688 · 2020-02-03T22:07:53+00:00

Men, Just wanted to remind you that confidence is not something you get and it stays there. It is a state of mind. Sometimes you feel confident, and other...

Evan87688

February 3, 2020

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Title	Few Know thing about CONFIDENCE
Author	Evan87688
Upvotes	7
Comments	15
Date	February 3, 2020 10:07 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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[–]grubsztyl 12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

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[–]Evan87688[S] -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Dude, This is something that comes from experience and proven science.

My point is the world is there for you to take. We get in our way.

Changing your body/posture/way you walk = changes your emotions. already proven.

Changing your tone of voice = changes your emotions.

You are in charge of how you walk and talk. so, you can get more confidence instantly.

Lets take your example, take someone who is depressed. Someone puts a gun to their head and says get happy now, they will find a way to put that smile on. I know this is an extreme example but my point is YOU are in charge of your emotions.

You gonna play victim and waste your life eating leftovers in the world, be my guest. Don't share your negativity or your experience unless it is backed by evidence. Unless it is proven that it is the case. People share their opinions and sh*t and affect others negativity.

I know you're mad and i'm not looking down on you or telling you that you're lower. I know you got good intentions but you're poisoning others because your mindset is poisoned. Keep looking for answers. You on the right track.

Peace.

[–]grubsztyl 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Don’t use argumentum ad personam on me. It makes you look even less credible than you already are and honestly it also makes you look kinda silly, trying to imply that I’m mad lol

People lack confidence for many reasons. Some of them simply need an ego boost, some of them might have undiagnosed dysthymia or GAD which needs to be addressed by a professional. You don’t know the reason so stop acting like you got it all figured out. It’s not as simple as „changing your mindset”. People study psychology for years in college to figure this out and help people with low self-esteem and here you are, one more coach-wannabe inspired by others wannabe-coaches, spewing out all the useless generic „it’s all in your head” advice we’ve all heard before so many times.

Your advice is truism. You look this term up, it might become useful in your oh so bright journey to becoming yet another enlightened motivational coach because hey, it’s not like there’s a million of them already, right?! There’s still room for one more!!

Also learn how to handle criticism. Something tells me you might be receiving a lot of it.

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[–]axe122 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

As someone who’s gone from struggling with women to losing count of girls I’ve been with I don’t believe you can change your worldview without experiences. You have to reprogram your subconscious with positive experiences. Telling someone to just know they are they shit doesn’t work when they honestly don’t believe it deep down. Fake it till you make it works cuz your pretending to be who you want to be while taking positive action and once you start getting results your subconscious social programming starts changing to positive instead of negative.

That’s how game works, the outer game feeds the inner game until the inner game eventually feeds the outer game.

The goal is to have inner game and confidence but no amount of reading about it will just make you confident. Unless it’s some sort of hypnosis book or something. If people could just read love your self, be brave, be confident and other inspirational quotes and just have it their would be no need for therapists and the world would be a different place.

Your self worth shouldn’t come from others but the way you view yourself is a direct result of the way you’ve viewed yourself since childhood. If you didn’t get girls then you won’t just start getting them without working at it. Your self worth won’t just magically change if it’s been nothing but negative input your whole life.

[–]Evan87688[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

i'm with you and i'm the same way. I was a fat shy kid in HS...blah blah blah. No one cares about my story but...

I agree...nothing worth getting is easy. Self love is a practice, acceptance is a practice...its not something you read and then you just become it.

For example, if im out shopping and i see a girl walk by that i like...idk about you but i feel nervous. Will i fight that feeling? or am i gonna accept that its normal and its the shit to feel this way...this is how im supposed to feel. or if im shy...i can accept im supposed to be shy right now....just accepting that will make me less shy.

But, i don't wanna make this into a whole argument. Thanks for the reply. I def agree with you that you have to work on your social skills and all that for a while and change dont happen easy but i was introducing an idea that can save people time. Something i wish i knew and i will keep sharing ideas i wish i was exposed to.

peace.