It’s extremely hard to do but I really believe now that you must be super excited for yourself with small wins and see every approach as a success even if it was cringey af - This is not to say you shouldn’t reflect on things you could’ve done better and tweak your approaches, but you really should pound it into your brain that every approach is a success. I’ve been on some good dates with women where I made out with them but because I never banged them I didn’t think it counted as a success. This mindset is toxic. I think it’s also important to note that this mindset doesn’t just apply to hardcase Virgin newbies - Even if you’re a guy who’s had some success and banged some girls you’re only criteria for success is that you open. After I started getting laid I think I subconsciously increased my threshold for success to getting laid without me even realizing it and then wondered why I was so miserable with countless rejections. Force yourself to be positive and proud of yourself even if she tells you to fuck off. Women like happy and positive men. I forget who said it but the I like the quote “the moment I said ‘hi’ I already won”...