How can you stop feeling bad about never being on a date or meeting a woman who was interested?

Cedking1 · 2020-08-08T16:52:20+00:00

I'll say this. You should focus on making a female friend first. You need to understand how women work to an extent. In order to make a friend go into talking with a woman, with the mindset of not just trying to do anything sexual. Ask her about her day, her beliefs, her likes/dislikes. You need to work on yourself before you even think about trying to do anything sexual with a woman. It sounds like you have approach anxiety and are putting to much on yourself. Just make a female friend without any sexual intent. How do I make a female friend? College probably would've been the easiest place and with a pandemic going on its tough. Online apps are your best option right now. There are legit friend only apps out there and most women, so long as your profile doesnt appear to be dangerous or threatening and you have ya know some regular pictures of yourself up with a smile or group of friends, most may accept a request to chat should you send something first. BUT you really need to work on yourself before you can get anywhere secual with any women. Trust me on that, build up aome confidence and excuse me for being harsh, stop feeling sorry for yourself. That is a turn off for anyone really. You can meet and kiss and cuddle and do everything you want with a woman but being impatient will not get you there any sooner. You have to realize its going to be a while before you get there but once you do you'll be fine. Youre young dude work on yourself and you'll see a change later.

7heFr3ak · 2020-08-08T16:02:01+00:00

Sounds like you are needy and as far as im aware that repels women. Maybe work on that and how do you know that they arent interested, also the dancing part ,you can just tap on a girl and start dancing with her, if she isn't interested she will turn around again or move away.

lxcrazy · 2020-08-08T17:50:02+00:00

Try method acting. Pick a character or make one for yourself who gets girls easily. Let's say you pick up the character of Archer. Get into that character. And understand how much you can apply his characteristics practically. I don't want you to go do weird shit. Become a different you. And spend some time studying how people, cuz if you can read people properly then you'll have a good understanding of what's going on in when you're trying to get a girl. And for heaven's sake don't be afraid to do anything whether it's asking her out or asking her for sex. If you don't get it find someone else and don't be fixated on a single person. Treat them like subjects in a science experiment. You're the boss.

lxcrazy · 2020-08-09T04:22:33+00:00

I don't follow any particular character. I asses the given situation and then think of someone who'll Excel in that situation and I try to impersonate that. I got success but I got failures too and that's important to get. Otherwise you'll have no idea what to do. And one thing I've observed is that people operate in different "modes". You have to know what mood a person is in and the modes they're operating in. Understand mode as being attentive or being aloof. Plan accordingly. Execute without fear of you get it good, if you don't get it be cool.

relentless_pma · 2020-08-09T08:22:58+00:00

Have you (cold) approached girls ?

7Saturn7Saturn7 · 2020-08-09T21:25:13+00:00

There's a bunch of other advice on this site that you can use buy I'll say this. You need an edge. It's hard to describe but you can't just be boring normal and get girls unless the edge comes from your looks, but you figured this out.

First off quit despair cold turkey, it just wants to drag you into the pit and it'll lie to do it. Second start examining and building yourself up ruthlessly, not just the normal " I've been doing something, therefore I deserve results" the new attitude is that you deserve the results you get. Third, ask yourself if you would think that you were charming/looked good if you were a woman and answer honestly. When you can get that answer to a strong yes in then start carrying yourself in all confidence because your efforts will work for some woman out there.

Title	How can you stop feeling bad about never being on a date or meeting a woman who was interested?
Author	Ploikblah
Upvotes	20
Comments	27
Date	August 8, 2020 2:55 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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