"You are not a couple, it's just your turn" How true is it with respect to women?

skullirang · 2020-10-06T15:40:09+00:00

This is a huge generalization on women. It’s highly subjective on the girl and the guy. You’ll be able to tell the farther you go into a relationship. The more your value to her is tied to superficial things the more like this is to he true.

This is why you vet the women heavily. I personally never go straight into a relationship. I had several fwbs and among them always appears the one that just gravitates towards a relationship. You’ll see it in the choices she makes. Does she prefer to just fuck with you or does she end up flirting with multiple guys at a party. Is she oblivious to men’s intentions and just doesn’t care as long she is showered by attention. Is she the type that has depth of thought. It’s very nuanced and only you can know if a girl is the type or not.

thebadsleepwell00 · 2020-10-06T13:06:40+00:00

This is a sad, sad post.

kingr76 · 2020-10-06T10:28:19+00:00

Theres some true aspects to this. Both men and women are engaging in more casual relationships these days. Emergence of contraceptives, Netflix, clubbing cuture etc

Ari_Baby_ · 2020-10-06T19:20:49+00:00

Why is this a woman specific thing? You telling me ALL GUYS are wanting to find a girl to settle down and marry instead of playing the field when they're young? Get the fuck outta here.

If you want to go by stereotypes men are more guilty of that than women are. But that's all they are: stereotypes. Everyone is a unique human being with their own wants and needs, so stop trying to generalize 50% of the population in one shitty reddit post lmao.

kalz44 · 2020-10-06T18:29:58+00:00

This is such a shit mindset. Women aren’t these brokers who are continually trading up from man to man trying to maximize their investment. They’re looking for love, companionship, company and sex just like we are. So chill because this mindset won’t get you anywhere but a ton of upvotes wherever the incels are subbed to.

Yamatoman9 · 2020-10-06T12:27:44+00:00

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tibles20 · 2020-10-06T10:22:40+00:00

This shouldn't be the way but it is

JuneBerryBug94 · 2020-10-06T13:35:25+00:00

How many wives/girlfriends have you had?

antoniaalexandria · 2020-10-06T23:06:27+00:00

This post is just dripping with patriarchal generalizations. Men and women can be unsatisfied in their relationships. You can’t label the entire gender. Also the thing about women sleeping around, what about men? Plenty of men do the same thing. And why is it negative only if a woman does it? Men cheat as often as women. Everyone has their own experiences but if you go into a relationship with this thought process you’re setting yourself up for some short ones.

cottagecorehoe · 2020-10-06T13:24:57+00:00

Hook-up culture does tend to be more prevalent among young people (young men AND young women) since they aren't necessarily thinking about settling down at that point and also just want to explore.

Women can be satisfied and are not necessarily always looking for a better guy than whoever she has at the moment. I think that women who do this tend to be on the younger side and also tend not to know what they want or value in a partner quite yet. Maybe they feel they haven't dated enough people, or they're confused about what is and is not important to them in a partner. I've seen men do this too, so it's not a "women-only" issue. I think it's an issue with people who tend to be on the younger side, who don't know what they want in a person yet, who might lack some confidence in themselves, or who simply haven't had a lot of relationship experience.

People who know what they want in a partner and are more self-assured that they know their priorities and values and traits that they want in a partner will not always look for a better guy if they are with someone who satisfies these values and they are confident enough in themselves that they know what they want and have no doubts about it.

BooksAndStarsLover · 2020-10-06T12:37:56+00:00

Personally as a woman I've always taken my realationships seriously since I started dateing in my late teens. I never dated to have sex and as soon as I figured out they weren't who I wanted to marry then I left the relationship.

I think it varies girl to girl and depends on the crowd your looking in.

2020-10-07T01:12:56+00:00

This is only the case for western and latin women. All other cultures around the world are still conservative and try to stick to one partner for life.

Even in the western world there are women looking for monogamy with the right person out there. If you focus on them, if you are that type of person yourself, you will find them. If you are looking for hookups then you will attract those kind of women. If you're not sure, you will bump into women who are also not sure

Umbran_scale · 2020-10-06T15:27:36+00:00

Sadly we are in a day and age where people think they deserve better than what they got, and this isn't applicable to just dating or even women in general. Everyone online sees how someone else has it better in terms of status, wealth, possession and partners and believe they should have it as well

Sexual liberation has shown that men don't need to be chivalrous or even courteous in order to get sex and women have no reason not to exploit their sex appeal for money so the value of the relationships we're familiar with has dropped drastically. For better or for worse is dependant on the type of person.

Cheating and affairs are on the rise, divorce and loneliness is an escalating problem no one wants to try and fix, people keep thinking that when they finally achieve being in a relationship believe they don't need to do anything else when that's not even the case.

There's a lot of variables in dating and depending on what your belief and views on it are neither right or wrong, they're either in your favour or not.

2020-10-06T19:07:30+00:00

Of course it’s true. Why would a self-respecting woman ever want to settle. Would YOU want to settle? Of course not, it works both ways.

That said, if you put in the work, you can become one of those men that they actually want. This is kind of a competition at the end of the day. Many men and few desirable women, you want to know them intimately? Give them a reason to find you irresistible.

I’m not saying it’s easy but it’s not impossible

12quarterkid58 · 2020-10-06T13:46:12+00:00

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Title	"You are not a couple, it's just your turn" How true is it with respect to women?
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Date	October 6, 2020 10:10 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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