The reason why actively trying to impress a woman almost always fails...

AruiMD · 2021-03-16T18:19:58+00:00

It's all true. A man of good self-esteem will not actively change his behaviour for the pleasure of someone.

I've seen girls love the man who mistreat them. Not beating up, guys. I mean, not being submissive to them 24/7 and most time denying their will.

mrstark2060 · 2021-03-16T20:19:36+00:00

I’ve heard it best described as non-neediness coupled with vulnerability. That’s the most attractive trait. So if you’re trying to impress someone in a needy way it will show. But usually being non-needy without being an ass is impressive on its own. But you still have to make a move, which is the vulnerability part.

Neither-King8568 · 2021-03-16T13:55:34+00:00

but how would someone confident approach a girl he genuinely likes

immaSandNi-woops · 2021-03-16T16:24:30+00:00

Unless they want to be impressed, which some do.

eablokker · 2021-03-16T20:44:22+00:00

Great video. Do you have any tips on how to feel good enough or to believe that you're good enough? Is there a particular therapy or exercise one can do?

Despite having my life together in so many ways, I chronically feel not good enough socially.

AruiMD · 2021-03-16T20:56:51+00:00

Hey Micheal. How would you suggest tackling the feeling of loneliness that come with improving yourself? Is there a way I can “embrace the suck” so to speak, without falling prey to feelings of not being desirable in the first place?

I need to get back on my feet and keep working but it’s tough

Mental_Bad · 2021-03-16T13:09:24+00:00

Based af

wirelezz · 2021-03-17T00:33:06+00:00

A few years ago I was with a friend at a bar grabbing a couple of drinks. He spotted 3 cute european girls who were visiting DC, so we approached them and just started to talk. You could see the interaction was fun and they were interested. I honestly wasn't expecting anything out of it so I didn't try.

Then some guy in a suit came with his shy friend and said something like "hey, what's up? You know, Obama is my friend and gave me this", showing a 5 dollar bill. It was r/sadcringe with a bit of a hilariously fail moment. After a few minutes the girls made clear with their body language that they weren't really into him and he had to leave.

Fun times.

shadowhall · 2021-03-17T00:42:13+00:00

I honestly believe the reason why some men such as myself try hard; it's BECAUSE we want the girl. Imagine wanting something so bad enough you do anything to get it. It's like a competition, you would do whatever it takes to win. Its the same with us with women. Unfortunately, women seem to think this comes off as desperate, needy and without self-worth. Why though? We choose you, we want you, why can't we be with you? I think women should think about that instead of us thinking we are trying hard. If we don't try hard then I don't think you can succeed, in my opinion. But, I'm still single so what do I know.

roy_miller-bruh · 2021-03-16T16:17:13+00:00

Yea i agree man

mrrooftops · 2021-03-17T02:26:25+00:00

Another 'social coach' with no social skills at all.

2021-03-17T01:34:07+00:00

The HV suave Don Juan wins every time

Crafty-Individual194 · 2021-03-17T01:38:49+00:00

I saw this viral video on YouTube where people were playing some drinking game people with their crushes. So there was this leng girl who came with an average looking guy as her crush. So get this, the girl owned up that the guy was her crush cause he never gave her attention as other dudes did, mind you the guy was just shy. Long story short, the girl embarrassed the hell out of the guy.

Here's the link: https://youtu.be/dZ96OgvZdok

Fix and improve yourself first, you're already considered by not giving them attention.

scenesick2 · 2021-03-17T08:09:10+00:00

Would james bond or robert downey junior say " hey guys look at me I'm so awesome "? and get insecure when nobody looks? Nah, they already know they're badass and they don't care whether you do too or not.

Choice-Recognition-3 · 2021-03-18T04:11:38+00:00

But if I don’t give the hint of my competency or strength, many girls just brushed me off as a boring normie and we can’t even continue the conversation

Title	The reason why actively trying to impress a woman almost always fails...
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Date	March 16, 2021 12:02 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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