First night out

Thi3fs · 2021-03-27T06:25:40+00:00

The fact that you opened. Amazing. Good stuff. Keep at it my dude. Set after set you’ll get stronger/better. Repetition.

Joshd_47 · 2021-03-27T07:12:40+00:00

Once you talk to one, girl or guy, the proceeding encounters get easier every time. Hit that flow state

2021-03-27T07:44:14+00:00

Good stuff man. Takes a lotta balls to go out alone and try not to drink. Was in the same boat as you about 9 months ago and can now go out by myself confidently and without a 2nd thought.

Talking to my ideal girls is still a little tricky for me, but most are super friendly when I do.

Dress well, don't get stuck in your head and just have a good time. Be chatty and friendly. Talk to people in line, bar staff, door staff, security.

If you're clubbing, have a good energy. Make eye conatct with people and sing the songs that are playing if possible. It's almost like going to a concert. Building that little bit of kinship with fellow club-goers makes it look like you're out with friends and shows that you're fun to be around.

Good luck!

abjones97 · 2021-03-27T07:23:35+00:00

try and go out with some coworkers. They'll help cut the tension, introduce you to some friends or people maybe?

iron_ee · 2021-03-27T10:19:59+00:00

keep trying no alcohol, it can be a crutch for a lot of people going through a similar trouble that you are facing. eventually it really hinders your social progression and physical health because you become so reliant on it.

good job

2021-03-27T06:00:01+00:00

Good luck and be safe

Renoxo · 2021-03-27T08:45:37+00:00

No matter how you personally feel or the result, know that you've done something 95% of guys will never do.

Going out alone and approaching is scary as fuck and you crossed that threshold, congratulations.

The thing is that the fear and anxiety you felt never gets less, you just get braver.

Good luck.

vexatiousnobleman · 2021-03-27T07:45:51+00:00

Good luck on your next, don't give up. Btw where do you live that your city is open during the pandemic?

raulonastool · 2021-03-27T15:00:21+00:00

Great job. Make sure you talk to everybody not just girls you find attractive. Get your brain so comfortable with talking to strangers, that talking to pretty girls doesn't phase you at all.

ItsYoBroski · 2021-03-27T05:56:40+00:00

All G my guy

LiamGatsby · 2021-03-27T14:57:29+00:00

Honestly I hate going out alone and I reckon most people do too, so the fact that you had the courage to see what’s out there by yourself is huge

slootslayer6969 · 2021-03-27T08:57:47+00:00

What city my guy?

ur-moms-pancake-nips · 2021-03-27T07:41:41+00:00

we are proud of you!

yaboijimbo123 · 2021-03-27T11:41:40+00:00

Good work so far

Forest-Dumb · 2021-03-27T12:07:34+00:00

One Big step, of Many .. keep going

Least_Somewhere_1397 · 2021-03-27T12:25:25+00:00

Ggs. Try to Self amuse yourself. It’s a really interesting shi- thing.

MK2718 · 2021-03-27T12:34:25+00:00

Keep it up!

ChaosAverted65 · 2021-03-27T15:30:00+00:00

Big props for going out alone, so definitely don't feel bad about that shot. Did you mainly find people that were alone or did you try and integrate into some groups

2021-03-27T16:27:50+00:00

Great man! Keep going. I'm a great fan of 0 alcohol game amd relying on yourself. However, I recently discovered that just a little bit of alcohol (like not even a full beer, or 1 shot) relaxes me. I do a very logical type of job, so I guess it's fine if ot helps to unwind. Just never ever rely on it. Also drinking a coffee or a redbull puts me in a more talkative state. The best is working out before game/date

MidLifeCrisis111 · 2021-03-27T17:09:06+00:00

That’s great, homie. Happy hours are great for this in a big city. Just get a seat at the bar, relax and be open to talking to anyone that sits next to you (regardless of their gender). I’ve met plenty of women and friends this way. Enjoy exploring your city.

UndeadStranger · 2021-03-27T17:53:48+00:00

I have the same issue sometimes and I noticed for me its important to get some social momentum going....just start looking for any reason to talk to anyone about anything and bring the good vibes with you and your guaranteed to at least have an interesting night.

EmpVaaS · 2021-03-27T18:19:44+00:00

Damn I also went alone yesterday night and had a great time, danced with a couple of girls and talked to a few people. Definitely after having a couple of drinks. Any chance you're in Florida?

Hellspawn9821 · 2021-03-27T20:21:28+00:00

Yeah, honestly just talk to guys at first, then if you can talk to less attractive girls. Eventually build up to girls afterwards, it doesn't even have to be that same day. Just whatever you do, keep at it

Fazlyrabbyboi · 2021-03-27T20:21:56+00:00

bro i can relate , keep that same energy always.

theprufeshanul · 2021-03-27T07:25:46+00:00

Going out by yourself and opening is definitely something that will get noticed - well done you!

Stefo26 · 2021-03-27T12:46:47+00:00

Sharpen your skills up, make moves on whichever women are HOTTEST to you - I’d actually suggest you go “out of your league” if you fail you learn if you win you will immediately power up

Chicxulub420 · 2021-03-27T09:17:12+00:00

Don't go out solo, it's fucking creepy man

Title	First night out
Author	UpliftMass
Upvotes	463
Comments	52
Date	March 27, 2021 5:48 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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