How to make a girl feel intensely desired, but not required?

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-04-07T02:16:05+00:00

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MrNobody___ · 2021-04-07T03:09:04+00:00

So I guess my questions are... how can you show a girl you’re extremely interested in her but don’t need her in your life?

Join her OnlyFans. You will pay her and that will show you're interested and at the same time she will not really be in your life.

Ok. Joke asides, have a life outside the relationship. Work, hobbies, friends. If you're cancelling compromises to go out with her it's bad - for a man or woman. Have boundaries.

Do girls ever respond well to the extreme “I’ll never be happy without you” style of love when you’re deeper in a relationship ?

Maybe, the ones that didn't had a healthy relationship model. I used to be like that, and the relationship didn't end well. I was jealous and demanding her attention 24/7. Cause I really believed that was true. I've learned that was one of the biggest lies I told myself.

How can you gauge what sort of girl she is before you either don’t show her enough or show her too much affection?

You can't. Be yourself and accept that you can't have a relationship with every girl, if you're looking for FWB you probably show the least amount of affection. If it's an LTR there is no right answer.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-04-07T02:27:31+00:00

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The_Sir_Galahad · 2021-04-07T16:08:47+00:00

No, I've dated well over 100 women and not a single one has ever EVER responded to the "I can't live without you" type of male affection.

It always a woman who's interested in a guy who is less interested in her. I think that's the main key to all of attraction. She wants to be desired sexually, yes, but she doesn't want a needy young boy at her tit.

I have dated women that were intensely interested in me (which is also kind of a turn off for most guys I think) that no matter how much affection I showed her...she was continually into me.

So I think if your goal is marriage, then you want to find a girl who is enamored by you...she will love you a lot and no matter how much love you show her, her love will always be greater for you.

If you're trying to just hookup, then you'll have to pace how much interest you show. Women are so different in terms of their neediness and their emotional needs, it's kinda crazy.

I try to indirectly compliment women. So, for example, you go out to dinner with a woman and she's wearing a really nice top that shows off her cleavage...you don't say "omg your tits are so hot" or anything so obliviously obvious. You say something along the lines of, "wow that top looks great on you, it's gonna get you into some trouble...".

See? You just told a girl that she is sexy, without saying she's sexy directly. The same goes for banter. It's all contextual though, if I'm at a bar I might walk up to a girl and straight up tell her "I noticed you from across the bar and I thought it you looked pretty good so I wanted to introduce myself". This is a completely different context, but being that we are complete strangers (and not on a date) you doing that shows insane amounts of confidence. This is something that is learned and over time you will become better at reading situations and what cards to play.

marowitt · 2021-04-07T15:07:41+00:00

Have a life outside of dating:

Hobbies
Career
Social Circle
Plans and goals that are centered on you

A man becomes needy the moment he has nothing going for him outside of who ever he is dating at the time.

Make your life about yourself and becoming better, women will come as by product.

Women need to be the cherry on top of the cake, yeah it makes it better but the base is still the same with or without it, they are just an added bonus, not a necesity.

Once you embrace this mentality you'll have an easy time attracting women with no effort.

Show as much affection as you want. Do you want to be with someone who doesn't care for affection if you're an affectionate person, or the other way around?
Don't do anything for her unless it also pleases you.

domo94 · 2021-04-08T19:06:32+00:00

Pay attention and she will tell you what she likes and wants.

Clingy is when you always need to say yes and please.

The parable when it comes to racing cars on the track is the ability to stop when needed. If you go at turns full speed, you'll crash. The same idea applies with this. If you're going full speed with her, non-stop, that's overwhelming / clingy.

Get it?

Title	How to make a girl feel intensely desired, but not required?
Author	FaithInStrangers94
Upvotes	47
Comments	28
Date	April 7, 2021 1:37 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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