Need some assistance identifying what can be the cause for this from those hear with experience dating in multiple citiies.

I moved from a large midwestern city with a more "large town" vibe to a huge midwestern city that I can describe as having a more east coast/midwestern vibe mix.

I was pumped to finally expand my dating options, and had awesome experiences on the apps when I had visited (much much higher quality women vs my old city).

the issue I never expected and that I am having is that women have nearly zero receptiveness to me here - either actively or passively, which is a complete 180 from my old town and it's honestly a complete shock.

In my old town:

  • Usually when I'd go to bars in my old town, I'd have women show interest in me when I went out. a few of my lays were from me just sitting at a bar, and chatting up women next to me - and them showing interest - or more forward things like buying me drinks, asking for my number. it didn't happen all the time - but at least once or twice a month.
  • When I'd meet new friend groups and we'd co-mingle, I'd get obvious interest from at least a 1-2 of the women, which would lead to a hookup/etc by just me existing and hanging. it was the same story - meet some new poeple, then I'd find out one of the girls is interested (her friend would ask if im single, etc), then hookup.

In this new town:

  • I'll go out to bars and explore - and chatting with women / etc. has yielded zero results except for one much heftier girl hitting on me hard. I get zero signs of interest and when I approach/chat I usually get zero reciprocation.
  • I've been getting heavily in new social events - coed sports, league teams, etc. we'll go out and grab drinks etc. but I get zero signs of interest (either passively or when I chat with them) - and I want to emphasize I'm there to have fun and meet new people - but I've just noticed the complete lack of reciprocation from women on the side.

I have a couple theories (from myself and also others I've talked too)

  1. since I'm "new" in town, my social value isn't as highly percieved - I'm usually out alone or I'm out with a friend/group I'm "breaking into" - meaning I'm not as comfortable yet as with my friends back home this can be perceived as "lower value" to women
  2. the "vibe" is different here and I may not fit the "vibe" of this new city. as in - the type of personality I portray is not what women are either used to (or even attracted too). The funny thing is I'm able to make guy friends easily everywhere

When I say a complete 180, I truly mean it. I went from basically "being able to just chill/have fun and have things fall in lap" to literally zero.

It's a weird feeling - and humbling. I think it's a cause for me to grow and maybe take some new action. but I also want to stay true to myself. For now I'd rather just focus on meeting new people and making new friends to be honest. ALso I'm really really trying to not lean on the apps but I feel like the results are just..miles and miles better than anything I can acheive in person here so it's hard.