I had just 4 days off work after my son was born - I was robbed of precious moments

White_Immigrant · 2024-06-13T18:56:32+00:00

TLDR, Men (in the UK) get 2 weeks paternity leave, women get 39 weeks. Some Dads, unsurprisingly, would like more time to be able to bond with their children.

ColonClenseByFire · 2024-06-13T19:30:59+00:00

My son came a month early unexpectedly. After a ~week I went back to my non profit job that who focuses on women and new mothers just to be yelled at because I missed some deadlines/didn't answer emails. Then got reprimanded because I "yelled" back at the person who was yelling at me because she wasn't able to have kids due to an accident in her teens. The yelling back had nothing to do with her and her not able to have a kid but more like "what did you want me to do when my kid almost died during childbirth and was in the NICU an hour away and no idea when he was coming home"

lastfreethinker · 2024-06-13T19:36:29+00:00

California we have six weeks at half pay. For my daughter I was gonna do four at the start then two before she turned one. I did the four then got really sick a five months after so I didn't use it all then.

For my son I took all six weeks upfront right after he was born.

gliderxlr8 · 2024-06-13T21:37:28+00:00

What’s crazy to me is that a lot of businesses around me don’t even offer paternity leave. This year I was given 4 weeks paid maternity and my husband had to use PTO for the two weeks he stayed home with us.

Nihilistic_Mermaid · 2024-06-14T05:50:47+00:00

Paternity leave is something that should increased greatly in a lot of countries (tbf in a lot of countries maternity leave is also stupidly low).

But I'd like to talk about one positive example.

Surprisingly my country, Bulgaria, despite all of it's shortcomings with corruption and lower QOL than western countries, does maternity leave and paternity leave rather well. While maternity leave is around 410 days, fathers get 15 days at birth, than up to 2 months extra after that. And just a couple of years ago the law was amended where six months after the birth, the mother could transfer the remainder of her payed maternity to the father or the grandparents.

So, yeah, that is one of the few things my country does actually the right way.

black-and-blue-bird · 2024-06-13T19:41:23+00:00

And this is why this sub is important. Capitalists are not your friends.

trickyvinny · 2024-06-13T23:45:21+00:00

My time off was important to bond with my child but also to help my partner. There is a physical toll on birth that 4 days and you're on your own just doesn't work.

PrimaryPineapple946 · 2024-06-13T21:16:35+00:00

In the UK don’t men and women get shared parental leave if they want it? So they can choose to have equal amounts?

drhagbard_celine · 2024-06-14T16:06:30+00:00

I was out of work when my daughter was born. I’d been fired from my previous job when they wouldn’t approve a two week trip to Japan, where my daughter was conceived coincidentally. Didn’t get a job until seven weeks later. Those seven weeks were priceless in retrospect.

Title	I had just 4 days off work after my son was born - I was robbed of precious moments
Author	White_Immigrant
Upvotes	105
Comments	22
Date	June 13, 2024 6:55 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates
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