My story is way too long to post, but if enough of you guys have a similar situation I’d definitely get into grainy details with you and I’d even be open to dm/have a quick call. I’m losing my fucking mind, here we go:

Met in college, had a thing fling, she moved in and never moved out. In college she lost her kidney transplant and went on dialysis. I loved her and she was kind, proposed after 3 years of dating and living together and got married year 4 of knowing each other. Graduated and had a big boy job, been very fortunate financially for my age. Got a second kidney transplant year 2 of marriage and had a kid year 4. This entire time I was sole income. She was taking teaching courses and tests but failed a couple of them then we moved states.

Sold house, Moved states for my career, bought house in new state. In new state, I’m still single earner until year 7 she got a part time day care gig at like 3 different facilities because she didn’t like them or quit. Only 9k earned from last years taxes, I’d still consider myself sole contributor through first 7 years.

Now we’re on year 8, another state again for my career and I really like it and plan to stay here. We’re in an apartment because I don’t foresee us staying together and I’d rather have cash on hand than buy a house I’ll have to sell later. Bonus, she did land a really good job earning 60% of my income so I figure now you’re in a place to take care of yourself and I can get out of this hell.

Why am I considering divorce?

I’ve pushed for dual incomes for 8 years and it took 8 years for her to get something stable.

In between 8 years there was weed issues that didn’t prevent her from working, but I was always cautious and said you need to pass a drug test but she couldn’t out the shit down outside of pregnancy, and outside of this year.

I also haven’t been fucking laid, stroked, or fondled with for 6 months straight. Since January maybe a bit before.

For my entire marriage I probably haven’t had sex more than 50 times. I’m a workhorse and it’s killing me. No handy no bjs no nothing. I’ve communicated this and nothing happens.

Texts her friends how fucking terrible I am and verbally abusive and never play with my kid or do dishes or do laundry. News flash, I take him to the park, aquarium, play houses, etc. I literally have been doing the majority of the dishes forever, and I’ve always done at least 40% of the laundry and that number is closer to 80% since even been here with her late schedule. She also texted that she wants to work late because it’s better to be at the office than at home because all I do is play video games.

My biggest concerns are custody and how much she’s get awarded because literally everything we have to our name outside of 12k total is, selfishly, mine.

There’s obviously a lot more to this that I can put to paper but this is just a gist. Sorry it’s not formulated I’m typing with a bit of rage and emotion…