I stopped holding the door open for women and its been liberating

e-rekshun · 2024-06-26T14:36:32+00:00

I hold the door open for everyone behind me regardless of gender, physical abilities, skin colour or any other reason, cause I try to be courteous and not a dick and I teach my kids the same.

AutopsyDrama · 2024-06-26T14:32:00+00:00

Hot take here. Hold the door open for anyone behind you.

jmcgil4684 · 2024-06-26T15:23:16+00:00

Just hold the door or don’t. My life is too full and complicated to even start to worry about such nonsense.

sean_off · 2024-06-26T16:22:35+00:00

I hold the door open for everyone. It’s just polite.

Blubbpaule · 2024-06-26T16:32:30+00:00

This sub gets more and more incel with every day.

radar-from-above · 2024-06-26T16:06:12+00:00

What a strange flex. Being kind doesnt hurt anything.

Provia100F · 2024-06-26T16:13:28+00:00

This isn't PussyPassDenied, this is just sexism

ShortnPortly · 2024-06-26T15:29:34+00:00

I hold the door open for anyone. It is just a polite thing to do.

I did have one guy I held the door open for. He just stood there looking at me. I said "You can go sir." he replied, "I aint your bitch." I laughed walked through the door and pulled the door shut behind me. But that was in shit stain Minneapolis.

EnergyTakerLad · 2024-06-26T16:55:18+00:00

This must be the new incel sub? Wtf is going on

Habanero_Eyeball · 2024-06-26T15:16:37+00:00

For me - I still hold doors open for women regardless of how they react because the act itself is for me. I can have some sharp edges to my personality and doing this forces me out of my routine and to think about someone else, regardless of gender. For me it often helps to soften and lighten up my mood.

What I hate - is when men hold the door and expect another man to run to them so they don't have to hold it for long. They do this when you're WAY too far away from the door. Like dude, just go on in, I'll open the door myself. I used to trot up to the door but no more.....I actually walk slower and look around.

I mean why are you even holding the door in the first place??? For "strokes"?? If one is doing it to be "nice" then you should NOT get upset when I slow down. You could always let go of the door and go on in.....but no, these narcissists can't stand not getting strokes for what they perceive as giving something to someone.

gowombat · 2024-06-26T15:53:30+00:00

Jesus Christ, it must be tiring to live like this.

Why is every interaction you have with any other human being a contest or transactional?

Oof.

thinkdeep · 2024-06-26T19:22:05+00:00

"Equal rights suck, don't they."

TryingToBeLevel · 2024-06-26T20:46:53+00:00

Be the change you want to see...

the_lowjacked · 2024-06-26T14:34:22+00:00

Kindness and courtesy cost you nothing but, you do you.

SchwiftedMetal · 2024-06-26T14:20:25+00:00

Do you, OP. No one is entitled to your courtesy.

Punk18 · 2024-06-26T16:35:39+00:00

Denying a pussy pass can only happen when a woman expects a pussy pass. But you dont know whether the woman behind you would expect one (i.e. whether she would have held the door open for you if your positions were reversed). So you are just punishing all women for the actions of some - just stereotyping and being a dick

Jillybean1978x · 2024-06-26T17:07:47+00:00

Well well well. The establishment wanted women and men to hate each other and it looks like the social engineers were successful and the establishment got just what it wanted. Congrats on being a literal tool.

Away_3363 · 2024-06-26T16:10:15+00:00

It is fine to not hold the door for anyone. You can choose to do so but others don’t need to. Your sense of what constitutes good or bad doesn’t extend to others.

No-Paramedic7860 · 2024-06-26T20:48:36+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, but I would feel guilty about not holding the door open for anyone. It’s just like saying sir and ma’am. I get fussed at sometimes for calling women ma’am, but their lack of manners shouldn’t change yours.

Yahwehnker · 2024-06-26T16:42:12+00:00

When you let that sad little chip on your shoulder dictate your day-to-day behavior.

GabberZZ · 2024-06-26T16:34:11+00:00

As a Brit, my monocle just fell out of my eye reading this.

RevDrucifer · 2024-06-26T15:34:45+00:00

“It’s a good day when I decide not to be a courteous human being”

Hope that works out for ya.

UbiquitousWobbegong · 2024-06-26T16:41:30+00:00

That sense of freedom is a trap imo. You know what would also give you a (temporary) sense of freedom? Quitting your job. But we don't work because working makes us feel free. We work because providing our labor lets us purchase the labor of others, and we all end up better off than if we had to do all of the work ourselves.

Similarly, we don't participate in courtesy because it makes us feel free. We participate in courtesy because it is the right thing to do. It builds positive societal values where most people end up treating each other with courtesy, because they learn that it is expected of them. It contributes to a sense of communal values, where people are more empathetic with each other because they are primed by casual positive interaction.

You want the long term, unseen rewards that exercises like common courtesy propagate. That is why you hold the door open, even for people who don't return the favor. It's like refusing to return your shopping cart because someone else doesn't. You're not spiting them, you're both just making a commitment to disorder. Then everyone suffers.

MomentSpecialist2020 · 2024-06-26T21:45:11+00:00

I stopped opening doors for women and stopped putting the toilet seat down! 👺

throwawaythequiche · 2024-06-26T15:43:04+00:00

I’m sure you get a thank you for almost every time you hold the door open for someone. Observing a few women not showing the same courtesy shouldn’t stop you from doing what I’d assume comes naturally to you. But do you, bud.

LilNaturePastelEmo · 2024-06-26T19:35:11+00:00

Me, a woman, who holds the door open for anyone

I think it comes down to just peoples morals, not necessarily male or female.

Illustrious_Brush_91 · 2024-06-26T16:01:28+00:00

All the data. Lol

El_Psy_Congroo4477 · 2024-06-26T19:34:20+00:00

I was taught to always look behind me when opening a door and hold it for whoever is there. I've noticed that men almost always do the same for me, but women almost never do. Pretty telling I'd say.

winkingchef · 2024-06-26T15:17:17+00:00

Pro tip: look at the reflection in the glass to see who is behind you.

XWingHotbox · 2024-06-26T14:18:21+00:00

So, you don't observe common courtesy because women don't? Weak.

blinkysmurf · 2024-06-26T18:13:54+00:00

Liberating for you or for her? Or for both?

double-k · 2024-06-27T02:07:18+00:00

I hold the door open for everyone behind me regardless of gender, physical abilities, skin colour or any other reason, cause I try to be courteous and not a dick. (partial copy and paste of e-rekshun's post)

MaddestChadLad · 2024-06-27T02:50:09+00:00

I don't treat others like a lady or gentleman because they are one, but because i am a gentleman.

biscuitbutt11 · 2024-06-27T05:32:00+00:00

Really sticking it to the Matriarchy. That will show them!

Hit4Help · 2024-06-27T06:34:55+00:00

Or call out with sarcastic comments for those that left the door shut on you without holding it.

dickwildgoose · 2024-06-27T06:55:29+00:00

Do unto others and you would have done to yourself. Or something along those lines.

Famous-Arachnid-1587 · 2024-06-29T22:15:38+00:00

Hodor approves

HistoryWest9592 · 2024-06-30T03:49:32+00:00

Also, stop saying "thank you" to women, they never say "you're welcome."

Fit_Remote_1307 · 2024-07-13T16:19:22+00:00

Please never post on reddit again. It's for your own good.

Matoskha92 · 2024-06-26T16:09:34+00:00

I hold the door open when people are awkwardly far away so they have to hurry to get inside. So fun to watch the distress.

Troll_Dovahdoge · 2024-06-26T21:33:34+00:00

How boring is your life bruh

tvieno · 2024-06-26T15:30:11+00:00

I run up and hold the door closed from the other side If they want through, they'll have to work at it.

RedMeatTrinket · 2024-06-26T17:40:57+00:00

I have found a lot of it to be associated with local norms. I hold the door open for everyone behind me and people in front of me holds the door until I can reach it. When walking 2 abreast, it seems to be the person on the hinge side can more conveniently grab the door handle and pulls it open for others.

I go to other parts of the country and other countries, some have similar customs and some don't. It is weird, to me, when someone lets the door slam shut to the person behind them.

Rhonin1313 · 2024-06-26T20:20:16+00:00

I hold the door open for anyone, frankly because it makes me feel good to do. It’s an easy “win” in life for me. I teach my kids the same, frankly to do unto others as you’d like done to you. But you do you OP.

FizzleKit10 · 2024-06-26T22:31:46+00:00

Congrats, you're now no better than the women you're complaining about. This isn't denying a pussy pass either, because that implies they are expecting special treatment rather than the common courtesy that everyone gets.

seanBLAMMO · 2024-06-26T22:45:03+00:00

I hear ya bud, but I dont think that's a good way to be. If you see something wrong with the world, I'm not sure the best response is to do the same.

cflbc · 2024-06-26T22:58:59+00:00

This comment section is actually important feedback here. Don’t go lower. Be better.

Successful-Gear8045 · 2024-06-26T14:28:06+00:00

You must look like a freak lmao

I can't say either sex holds the door open more than any other, seems to be about even from where I live.

This post comes off as a petty. If simple courtesy requires a transaction from you, and then make it into a sex game, well you do you. I'm sure you'll be happier going forward.

groenteman · 2024-06-26T15:32:22+00:00

I was on the train a couple of weeks ago and our trains have little glass swing doors between different seating areas. I was walking behind a women (around boomer age) and instead of holding the door open or just let it go so it would swing and close the actively closed the door right in my face (she was so oblivious to her surroundings)

rdtcm · 2024-06-26T17:21:07+00:00

I agree with this post I was on crutches going to my gym no woman EVER held door open for me...and times when I was struggling through the door sometimes Id get a nasty look because I didn't wait for a woman to get there while she was on phone...there is no equivalent in society for woman to do the same in return...open your own door. (PS if ANYONE is right behind me I'm still polite and hold door but just don't go out of my way)

gayassbanger · 2024-06-26T18:58:51+00:00

I’ve read this post before. OP reposting stolen content? Say it ain’t so.

Ninja_rooster · 2024-06-26T19:55:52+00:00

Ooooh yeah, being a spiteful asshole, that will never come back to bite you.

TheCons · 2024-06-26T21:09:03+00:00

You'd think after Tom Brady shut the door on you dorks for twenty years you'd be sympathetic to someone holding one open.

Jokes aside, being honest with you man, it only feels 'liberating' because you've got this toxic growth and instead of dealing with it, you've swept it out of sight. It feels like a weight being lifted because you're clearly giving it too much validation when you should be excising it. You don't have to hold the door for anyone in fairness, but to feel what you perceive as 'liberation' by doing it specifically to women I think speaks to issues you should try and work out.

Good luck dude.

flabbybumhole · 2024-06-27T10:46:33+00:00

This is a really weird post. I hope you get help man.

clandestineVexation · 2024-06-26T19:58:05+00:00

When did this sub turn from karens getting their comeuppance to straight up misogyny?

Legate_Lanius1985 · 2024-06-27T02:57:05+00:00

Straight up incel

Spacecwb0y117 · 2024-06-27T05:22:13+00:00

Really thought incel was a feminist buzzword, but God damn OP if you don't reek of one.

Hivac-TLB · 2024-06-26T15:39:16+00:00

50 yards? Are you sure your healthy? What is that like 50 Canada steps or something. Also wouldn't it be easier to gauge your surroundings before you get to the door.

BravoPUA · 2024-06-26T17:04:26+00:00

This reads like a crazy TwoX post.

l3gion666 · 2024-06-26T23:21:44+00:00

Just because other people are c*nts doesnt mean you have to be 🤪

Radamus1976 · 2024-06-27T02:44:15+00:00

Dude, you sound like a straight up misogynist. Common courtesy is to hold the door open for anyone if they are in range. Most people will wait by a door or go and assist anyone who looks like they need special assistance to enter a building.

I love reading about or watching a good video on a PPD. Seems like you just want the chance to be a dick to some woman for the sake of being a dick.

dustyolmufu · 2024-06-26T18:41:34+00:00

just because women are entitled and stuck up doesn't mean we should stoop to their level, brother

Title	I stopped holding the door open for women and its been liberating
Author	miamidolphins12
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Comments	122
Date	June 26, 2024 2:03 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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