So my wife (F63) and I (m62) are considering divorce (NJ)after 30 years.

Is it better to see a single lawyer together first or see one each separately? We know this will be going to mediation.

Is it true in NJ that “lifetime alimony” stops at Social Security age (67)?

We are both still in the house. What are the implications if I move out? Is that considered abandonment? Do I have to move out? Is it a good idea or no? Property is in both names.

She works part time as an RN and has done this for several years as I have always bought in the bulk of the income (+75%). If we are going to separate, I want this to be as fair as possible.

Kids are grown and out of the house.

Just trying to figure out where this is going and the right steps to take. Any guidance would be appreciated. Thanks.