Second date after no escalation on the first

esimpstyle · 2024-07-27T21:25:04+00:00

Congratulations on actually getting a date. Already better than most here that are clouded by rejection and negative outcomes!

Captain_w00t · 2024-07-27T21:55:45+00:00

You can almost always escalate in whatever setting. Most of the times you create opportunities for getting closer or touch her:

whispering something in her ear (maybe you are in public and want to say something only her should listen)
grabbing her hand to check her rings, nail polish or play hand reading
hugging her when you meet at the start of the date, perhaps giving compliments for her clothes, hairs, shoes or some other detail in which she has put some effort (which means, avoid physical compliments)
you offer your hand from distance, like you were inviting her to dance. If she accepts with a smile, then you can gently pull her towards you and hug her, and then go for a kiss

Of course, you need to be aware of her reactions, the more she’s compliant the more you can escalate. If you feel she’s uncomfortable or not very compliant, then should take a step back and, maybe, try later.

Just consider that if she accepted a second date, she enjoyed the first one, so you can guess there’s some interest from her.

Incarnate24 · 2024-07-27T22:50:02+00:00

You have to touch her and escalate physically. That’s the entire point of a physical date, no matter the setting. Without it you can’t build the sexual tension needed to turn it romantic from platonic

You can be talking about the EXACT same things. Exact same convo word per word, but one with you touching her a lot and one with you sitting there & the vibe is night and day

GymBroTRT · 2024-07-27T21:56:33+00:00

No. Test her a day before the date and say: “change of plans. Need some down time, so why don’t you bring a bottle of wine instead and I will get take out. My address is ……”

jsb0299 · 2024-07-27T23:43:43+00:00

I was on the same boat a couple of weeks ago. First date went great. We talked nonstop we both felt great. But no kiss no nothing. I went to the second date with the same mentality we had a great time but again no escalation. I want to clarify that Im not a shy person so both dates teased her on a cheeky way. Third date we went to the movies (her choice) and made like we’ve done it before. Just go with the flow and make physical contact and tease her. Tell her she’s beautiful. Things will flow

No-Preference8767 · 2024-07-28T02:55:30+00:00

If it's an actusl date your probably fine. Just go for a kiss . If you're trying to get laid, You gotta speed it up a lil bit and see if she's sexually interested in you

zebekias · 2024-07-28T15:08:02+00:00

When I just starting to have successes, I recall one time I was picking up a hottie for a day1, and it happened naturally and unplanned… we hugged, I was totally stunned by the way she looked, I gave her a quick kiss on the lips (a peck), mentioned that she looked stunning, and opened the door.

This was a first for me, as I was usually tardy on escalation. Later I realized this is great, it says all the right things for the kind of attractive man you are, and sets the tone for smooth escalation. It built confidence that I can do this, and indeed you can. Just don’t plan it, just like don’t plan what to say in person or on the phone. Keeping things sort of organic is good game.

So I do recommend a small escalation step like that right from the moment you see her again, just don’t make it a big deal (in your head), it’s nothing.

Title	Second date after no escalation on the first
Author	rchatter06
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	July 27, 2024 9:22 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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