Why am I getting ghosted after meeting at bar/club

DaygameCode · 2024-08-16T17:45:01+00:00

Because the bar and clubs are not for getting numbers, they are for escalating as far as possible. In other words, taking her to a bedroom and having sex that same night. What happens in the night stays in the night. It’s super rare for a woman you meet in those places to follow up if sex hasn’t happened. And even when sex has happened it is still not guaranteed she will want to continue seeing you, so imagine how less likely if you haven’t even had sex with her. Women go out at night to have a fun night, not to seek a relationship.

Duke_Roses · 2024-08-16T17:44:52+00:00

Dont worry bro, usually most people at the club are in the moment. They might be drunk offer a kiss but as soon as the high cools its not something they would do. Another reason some just come for fun. Thats rhe harsh truth

JustNefariousness625 · 2024-08-17T00:21:26+00:00

Bars clubs are same day lays or don’t even follow up tbh

Never-The_Less7 · 2024-08-17T01:17:45+00:00

Cuz they wake up in the morning with “hangxiety”. Hangover + regret. Then, everyone they met that night gets lumped into that general feeling

liftingnstuff · 2024-08-16T19:02:58+00:00

You created a brief moment of excitement but did very little to create any lasting connection/any reason for her to be invested long term. You should be doing longer sets, trying to establish enough trust/connection/attraction to the point where you can take her home that night instead of settling for a number. If you establish that for whatever reason she can't go home with you that night, you still need to establish a connection, and then seed the idea of hanging out again before you get her number.

climaxingwalrus · 2024-08-16T20:19:14+00:00

They sober the next day lol

Dandys3107 · 2024-08-17T11:45:24+00:00

Day after club/bar, girl is facing high emotional drop. Emotions and hormones that were working there, now feel like a nuisance and passed dream. That’s just how our biology works, you need to strike iron while it’s hot or try to form some deeper connection with a girl that will persist through their hormonal swing.

dbastrid100 · 2024-08-16T18:23:36+00:00

This seems to be a huge problem in today's dating world and honestly I think too many guys are looking too deep into it. Maybe the girl was drunk, sobered up, and isn't interested any more, maybe she has a bf/husband and wanted to see what it would feel like to cheat. There could be a million reasons why you'd get ghosted and many of them probably weren't even your fault. I'd say stop taking it personally and go at it again.

driller20 · 2024-08-17T13:32:08+00:00

Cant believe people here discard clubs just cause they cant make it work...

The comment section is ANTI seduction.

redspikedog · 2024-08-18T03:06:01+00:00

Heres whats going on. People are having fun, which means chemical reactions in their brains that causes good types of feelings. Those feelings dissipate or decay when they leave back home. They are back in their normal state.

When they are feeling normal or ehh, their is less motivation to talk to anyone.

Keep in mind no girl is away from their phone.

IMExpir. I also do the same, I get numbers, but when I get home, im comfortable and feel ehh, I just let the contact fade away.. TBH, they dont contact me either and i feel happy either way because I want to be left alone.

Anyways, if you want to see that person again, youll have to start at gear one this time. Send a funny meme or invite for breakfast lunch or dinner.

nunsaymoo · 2024-08-18T07:27:03+00:00

What do you text them? If it's some bullshit like "hey" or "what's up," that's why.

safestuff987 · 2024-08-19T15:56:44+00:00

Assuming alcohol is involved, women tend to do things they would normally stop themselves from doing when sober. They also tend to get judged negatively, mostly by their friends, when they hook up with a guy in a bar/club.

TonyRavioli24 · 2024-08-16T20:55:13+00:00

As someone else said, you are not creating the correct amount of connection/comfort/rapport/etc for her to feel the desire to continue pursuing you. You're just another dude she danced with or had a cheeky little kiss with at the club. Nothing more/nothing less. Club game obviously isn't ideal for creating comfort, but if you want to, you need to "pull" her either to a secluded part of the bar/club to talk further or to a different location if it's not a good environment for that.

dizzy_dunkan · 2024-08-16T18:09:32+00:00

Because you aren't attractive enough

driller20 · 2024-08-16T18:43:52+00:00

Bad text game, look for tips on that.

Title	Why am I getting ghosted after meeting at bar/club
Author	iamahumanXD
Upvotes	37
Comments	35
Date	August 16, 2024 5:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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