SAHM to-do list once kids are older?

Fae_Leaf · 2024-09-10T19:00:41+00:00

I'm a SAHM, but we just have a baby. I do take my house chores very seriously though and have them broken up into categories based on frequency. I can give you my lists to help you with some ideas.

Daily:
- Dishes
- Make bed(s)
- Scoop litter box (we have a cat)
- Tidy up, wherever it's needed (i.e. around the desks, living room, etc.)
- Prep lunch and coffee for husband (and I write a little note to put in his lunch box)
- Cooking meals

Weekly:
- Vacuum (sometimes this is done twice a week)
- Laundry (also might be done more than once, but it consists of clothes, kitchen linens, and bathroom linens plus rugs)
- Clean the stove
- Clean the bathroom toilet, bathroom sink, bath tub, and mirror(s)
- Clean kitchen sink
- Pour vinegar and boiling water down all plumbing drains (good for mold/mildew and fruit flies in the Summer)
- Mop hard floors
- Clean trash cans
- Clean any carpet stains (cat and baby can be messy)

Monthly:
- Dump and clean litter box
- Put bedding out in sun (our bedding is wool, so sunlight is crucial)
- Clean fridge
- Vacuum baseboards
- Vacuum windowsills
- Vacuum furniture
- Dust shelves

Seasonal:
- Deep clean bathroom
- Wash shower curtain and liner
- Wipe down shower curtain rod
- Sun mattress (also wool)
- Clean behind/under stove and fridge
- Move furniture and vacuum
- Wipe out/down cabinets and walls
- Re-organize cabinets

I'm far from perfect, so I don't nail all of this every single time. And with the baby, especially, I fall behind on daily chores these days. But this is the general list of what I try to keep up on.

Hello891011 · 2024-09-10T13:30:18+00:00

I’m not a stay at home mom but I do carry the main mental load of housework so this is super easy for me. I’m gonna assume you do everything to ensure the house runs smoothly so here we go:

Manage finances / budget / pay bills Plan meals Grocery shopping / miscellaneous shopping for house Cook Clean daily Laundry Get kids ready Appts School Homework Pet care (if you have any)

I do all of this stuff (minus the kids part) on top of working 2 jobs and let me tell you running the house feels like its own full time job. Idk what your chore split looks like, if hubby helps at all at home or it’s your sole job, but yeah. Running a house even without taking care of kids feels like a full time job.

SurpisedMe · 2024-09-10T14:13:25+00:00

I currently have young kids but was a stay at home wife before kids so I would say youre experience something in the middle. I didn’t expect my husband to do anything other than man chores like lawn moving, furniture building. Weekly I’d cook, make and pack lunches, general house cleaning, without littles I’d spend more time on myself, working out , getting ready . Do more deep cleaning, organizing. And dive into a hobby

bunnysecrets · 2024-09-10T20:16:37+00:00

I (45f) am a newish (1.5 yrs) stay at home. I was in the nursing field and needed a break. Even though this is something we talked about and something I wanted this has been a stressful transition for me.

Kids are my step-kids and we get them 50/50 so every other week. Both kids drive. It's been weird to leave the work force to stay at home to 2 teenagers who don't need a ton and we only get to see them every other week. We generally go to most sports events/school activities regardless of whose week.

19f off to college but home for breaks and summers (depending on internship).

16M, junior in highschool, involved in sports each season, has a summer jobs. College bound in 2 yrs.

In general, I am responsible for the house, cooking, cleaning and I help with some yardwork, take the trash to the curb, errands, packing for trips (usually long drive to see family). When 16 yr old wasn't driving I would do dental appointments. Prior to that, I was working and hubby did it.

He manages our finances, breadwinner, yardwork, he is handy so he does house maintenance and projects depending on his preferences, his ex-wife.

We talk about big decisions like buying a new fridge or car, but he handles the details.

Personally, it would be great to have similar friends as mine are all working the grind. I need to jump into a hobby other than a small garden as I'm just experimenting.

My hubs does jump in with cooking and grocery shopping and if I ask for help he always does. He does our grocery shop most Sundays.

gd_reinvent · 2024-09-11T11:12:45+00:00

My mom used to:

Volunteer at school events

Help with homework

Drive to and from extra curricular activities

Drive to netball on Saturday

Help with singing competitions

Take up and take down clothing and adjust hems and sleeves on her sewing machine and sew buttons and small tears by hand

Cook

Do housework

Cleaned bathroom

Vacuuming and mopping

Rug doctored carpets and upholstery once a year

Do laundry

Walk dog

Animal care such as feeding and taking to vet

Gardening

Grocery shopping

Cleaned glass doors and windows inside

Painted fence

Dad:

Taught me to drive

Took me to netball

Dishes

Sorted recycling

Car maintenance

Mowed lawns

Water blasted the decks

Cleaned trash cans

Cleaned any heavy carpet stains

Washed windows outside

Painted fence

Volunteered at local preschool keeping their drains clean

anneofgreensuburbs · 2024-09-11T00:04:51+00:00

I am in my early 40s, and have been a SAHM for 12 years. Before that I was a SAHW. This is my fourth year homeschooling my children.

Currently I am responsible for

Meal planning, grocery shopping, and cooking 2-3 meals a day. The kids and I have lunch out once a week, and my 12 and 8 year old children will sometimes cook for themselves. My 12 year old is learning meal planning and cooking, and I trust her with the oven and stove. My 8 year old can cook ramen, quesadillas, and PBJs, but I don't want him to subsist only on processed food, so I cook lunch for us most of the time.

I prioritize my husband's work clothes being clean when I do laundry, but I wash and fold his and my clothes, my youngest' clothes, and all of the household linen. Our children start doing their own laundry at 10 years old, and start sorting their dirty laundry at 5, and start putting away their clean clothes at 6.

I am in charge of selecting curriculum for our homeschool yearly, and planning a weekly self-paced checklist for my middle schooler, and a daily agenda for my elementary kiddo. I also plan a weekly science activity for my husband to do with the kids, and find any background info they need to know before they do the activity. This week they are recreating an Archimedes experiment.

I keep the dishes washed, and my oldest puts them away. Sometimes my husband will notice that I get behind with this, and will pitch in and wash a load of dishes, or find a stack of folded laundry and put it away. It's no big deal to him, and he doesn't mind pitching in.

I am also responsible for a lot of our calendar, making sure everyone gets to extracurricular stuff on time, vet appointments birthday parties, vacation activities, etc.

I make sure to replace clothing when needed, repair what can be fixed, that the kids have shoes that fit, etc.

I keep the common areas picked up as much as t can, but am finding this difficult, as we are so busy, and really need to declutter more. We have a robot vacuum that helps tremendously, but I also need to be more diligent about mopping.

TLDR: I am responsible for the food, most laundry, homeschool decisions, calendar, and common areas. I am also responsible for the incremental training of our children to understand what it takes to run a home.

youllknowwhenitstime · 2024-09-15T03:56:34+00:00

Mine is too little to speak as a mother, but I can speak as a former child.

By the time I was 11, my sister and I had split all regular household work except for the bulk of the cooking (we would still help), and Mom did the dishes that needed handwashing until I was a bit older when I picked that chore up. Mom did deep cleaning when needed, and she enjoyed doing little home renovation projects we weren't expected to pitch in on ever. Dad dealt with trash and did the regular yard work, but we did "project" things in the yard as a family like de-weeding the garden or raking after the leaf falls (we had two per season due to different types of trees).

11 year old me and my 9 year old sister split: - Vacuuming the house - Sweeping tile areas and the outside porch - Bathroom cleaning (incl. toilet and mirror, not incl tub because that was treated like an irregular deep clean) - Wiping down surfaces/dusting - Pet care (indoor cats and birds) - Family laundry (collect, sort, wash, fold, put away) - Loading and unloading dish washer - Alternated nights for acting as Mom's kitchen assistant

Perhaps some other things I'm not immediately remembering. If you can think of another regular household chore not mentioned, tell me and I can confirm what age we started doing it.

By the time we were both in high school, breakfasts and lunches were all make-it-yourself. Mom maintained doing the main share of dinner work, as offloading that to us would have gotten in the way of things important to developing as an independent adult like part time jobs, but dish washing went to me.

Chores were never tied to allowance, because we were responsible for chores for the simple fact we lived in a house that needed maintenance.

We were home schooled 3 hours a date plus a hefty load of extracurriculars: at 9 and 11 we both had ballet, both had a music class, I got an art class, we both went to a Girl Scouts knock off group, and we both went to a multi-hour park day, all weekly, on top of a vibrant playdate culture. I think hours-wise core subjects and extracurriculars added up to a normal school day, and you can see a lot of my Mom's extra energy from us doing so much house work went to chueffering us somewhere most afternoons.

Title	SAHM to-do list once kids are older?
Author	JoyfullMommy006
Upvotes	15
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Date	September 10, 2024 12:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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