How do I deal with rejection?

Icy_Adhesiveness349 · 2024-09-15T12:24:55+00:00

I am a woman but I have done major work/research on self esteem and confidence.

Imagine the man that gets all the women you would want. Think of the type of man he is. What are his daily activities and what does he think about himself? What does he wear and how does he approach women?

Is he witty? Is he serious? Is he laid back and nonchalant? Identify that. And start building skills to get you there.

Rejection is just practice when it comes to dating. You build confidence by practicing as well as working on yourself.

If you identify the things you want to cultivate in yourself and begin working on those things, no one will be able to waver your confidence.

NiceGuysDatingCoach · 2024-09-15T09:09:07+00:00

Be a good wingman and connect the four people.

@ topic: You have to view the approach itself as a success. The outcome doesn't matter, as soon as you managed to say "Hi" you already won. Once this come naturally, you can start refining your technique.

DaHouseSomalian · 2024-09-15T14:07:50+00:00

So here is the actual problem. It starts way before getting rejected.

Think of it as two sides of the same coin. On one side, you have all that women mean to you and what getting a woman means about you. This is the meaning you give to things. For example “women bring happiness, being able to get a girl to make out with me and go home me means I’m the man, if enough hot girls like me, I will be a total stud and all my friends will be envious”.

And the other side of this coin is the flip side of the above. It’s what we think not getting a woman means about us. That it means you are a loser, you are pathetic, inferior; that you will be doomed to loneliness and sexlessness, etc.

That type of thinking puts enormous pressure on you and the stakes when you go out are extremely high. Every interaction with a woman becomes a life or death situation because in your mind you ascribe the meaning that it will wither determine your happiness and self worth or it will doom you to unhappiness and misery.

So the net effect is that you get nervous, clammed up, way too into your own head and eventually you bring onto to your own rejection.

When you change what it means to you to get women and what it means about you when you don’t, you will be free of this stuff. And the best way to ascribe new meaning is to make it mean nothing. Getting a woman interested means nothing and a woman not being interested in you means absolutely nothing. Then all nervousness and fear of rejection and even rejection will disappear.

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2024-09-15T20:36:01+00:00

work on inner game dude, there are many things you can improve but without context it's hard to tell, my recomendation like I usually do, go to the books, study the old coaches, the only thing you are going to get through that feeling of rejection is to approach women like a machine, like it's a video game, only through that will you eventually overcome that, start slow, approach 1 women each day, then 2, then 3, you only get confidence with success, refine the approach learn how to open a set, learn how to create attraction, learn body language, a million things but that's why I tell go to the books.

Alphagreen_97 · 2024-09-15T09:05:49+00:00

Do what is necessary.

First off, you have the balls to go for what you want. That is a commendable character trait. Most guys don't just approach.

I would recommend to go to the next city and approach women. I have written how many times at this point, just check my history.

You will get rejected, but you will also get dates if you do it the way i have described.

It is okay to get rejected, the problem isn't always you. Don't take it personally therefore.

Read my instruction and go for it. I believe in you.

Edit.

Just checked your Instagram, you need to remove that upper lip moustache it isn't doing you any favors. Keep a 3 day beard all around, not only upper lip if you got hair growing there. Otherwise keep it freshly cut. I would recommend going to the barber, letting him make your sides fresh almost on 0 and keeping the top. Either that or sides and top very short.

Regarding clothes, go buy some nice shoes if you haven't and some fitting modern clothes. Start dressing like a man if you want women to notice you. Good that you're going to the gym that's a plus. You got this.

Itchy_City_4926 · 2024-09-15T09:36:47+00:00

It’s a height thing. Plus you have low self esteem because of yourself. No one else. You’re a good looking dude but I feel like you beat yourself up so that no one else does. Makes you look weak and fragile.

Title	How do I deal with rejection?
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Date	September 15, 2024 9:00 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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