Hello everyone!

I am (33M) going through a divorce. Met my wife(33F) when I was 9. Married only 12 years.

Long story short I initiated the divorce i.e I prepared the divorce papers, we were going to settle; but, she wanted the marital home. I refused to move out so she accused me of everything under the sun to have me arrested. It didn't work. I'm currently 2 months into the divorce. I was facing 25 years(Rape and everything else) of prison 6 weeks ago, now I am only facing 1 year of jail time. My attorneys and I are currently working to drop it to 0 and prove that these are false accusations(Domestic Violence).

We have 3 kids together and 4th on the way. I am very glad of my decision for initiating it. It revealed her true colors and once my kids grow up they can see who was at fault for this nasty divorce(everything is public record).

For those who are wondering why I initiated the divorce: besides from daily bickering and name calling, the final straw that broke the camels back was if she was going to take 50% of my wealth (she was a stay at home mom and settlement agreement was I would pay her $3000 for the rest of her life and 50k cash to resettle to her home country. Before you guys say it's not enough, she was going to settle in a 3rd world country where you can live off like royalty for $1000.

Anyways my post is to encourage men, to take the initiative if they are being disrespected or if their needs are not being met. I am one of the few men who bit the bullet and took the initiative.

Although I am only 2 months into the divorce. Lost my kids(haven't seen them or talked to them) dropped 40k in attorney fees. We're hoping to get the kids off the protection order next month.

I have definitely avoided a bomb that would have exploded in my face 5-20 years down the road when my networth would have been higher. The journey is long and I haven't felt this type of pain or anger in my life. It definitely unlocks a part of you that didn't exist. The most I can do is, how I react to it. Being a stoic mofo, gym and business is definitely helping.

Do not tolerate disrespect my fellow men. I have already talked to 90+ women in dating apps and most of them are broken and bitter. Staying alone and finding peace in loneliness is something I'm learning and didn't know this peace existed.

Stay strong, there is definitely someone better out there for everyone!