I just wanted to share my progress, and hopefully motivate guys divorcing/newly divorced.

  • Married 14 years, 3 sons, 1 live full time with me, 2 young ones with my ex (She does not let me see them)

I developed a severe depression over my 14 year marriage, all the usual behaviour.

  • Sex started out amazing, everything a guy likes basically, a few months into the relationship that changed drastically, sex became a power tool for her.
  • Constant belittling me, calling me that i was not a man in front of her friends over and over for every little bullshit reason (cleaning etc etc)
  • Always excuses for herself, never accountability.
  • She went out partying weekly, came back apeshit drunk 6 am,w hile i worked full time and watched the kids, offcourse no replies to phone calls and show up next day 5/7 am in the morning apeshit drunk, ONLY because i was so deprived of sex i allowed it, because i was so much yarning for intimicy as we used to have it from my wife....

So now?!

First 6 months were HARD1 a completely stripped flat appartment, my son and me were sleeping on dirty old mattresses on the ground, no kitchen, everything old and broken, no more car for transportation, no money, nothing.

  • I made progress in the house, we both have a bedroom now with some decent stuff, i still only have 2 pants and 2 shirts but we are making progress, making the house cosey and livable, but financially its hard.
  • I started to travel monthly, i need the mental break, i need to rely on myself and regain my self respect/love and trust. It is very necessery for me at the moment.
  • Faith i started to become very bussy with my community, i made a real friend, we talk daily, we see each other weekly we share all the personal shit we deal with. I am so happy!
  • 5 days per week to the gym, i start to slowely get buff. Mental boost you cannot fathom.

My depression is a lot less then it used to be.

I am now addressing my financial stress with my current employer, and if not able to resolve i will move on to another to also take away this stress point.

MY goal for 2025.

1: Health, get swole, eat and sleep heathty regain energy, get rid of the brainfog, feel confident.

2: Remove financial stress, its only me now, i have to fully rely on myself.

3: Get my flat all snug and cosey so its inviting for chicks to come over.