I (29m) began dating/seeing a (27f) woman a little over a month ago. Matched on Hinge and things went well the first 3 weeks. She was great at reaching out to me daily between texting and snap chatting. She’d FaceTime me and had great energy towards me. I didn’t want and was clear I wanted to take things slowly. Of course that did not happen. We saw each other 3 times in the first week after our first date. Slept together on date number 2 which was the second day we had met. We went out to a bar with some of her friends, and when I dropped her off at home she invited me in for sex. Saw her again 4 days later and slept together again. We live 45 minutes apart so physical distance is created naturally. I showed her some “red-flags” in date number 4 but they didn’t stop her from sleeping with me once again at the end of the night. She became cold/distant after that so I just marched her energy and didn’t push. After little to no contact for over a week she invited me over this past Tuesday. It was a nice evening and I didn’t question her about to hot & cold attitude. We had sex again and it was the best it had been between us. I simply asked her what her intentions were with me and what she wanted. I did feel a bit used by her that night. At first I kinda rejected her and she began to pout about me not just easily hooking up. I gave in anyways and afterwards she wanted to talk about my red-flags. The conversation was completely unproductive and I feel she kept manipulating me into putting my foot in my mouth. As if everything I said was spun into something she didn’t care for. Her communication increased over the last few days but I still feel the energy is off. It feels more forced from her so once again I’m just matching the energy. I don’t feel I’ve ever been with a woman who has played games like this. I’d prefer her just come out and say no I’m no longer interested or I’d like to see where this goes. She’s confused and even told me that. I told her last I saw her that I wasn’t going to rush her or put any pressure on her. However, I don’t want to be used as a fuck boy or emotional crutch for her. With the holidays coming up we’ll both be busy for about the next week- 10 days. I asked her earlier today if I was going to see her when she gets back from visiting family. At this point I’d just prefer a black and white answer. She’s carrying baggage from a short relationship prior to me which I can sense. I guess this is more of a rant but I could use any advice given. I do like this girl a lot but I’m not into playing games with her. She invited me over once again today and after telling me yesterday we weren’t having sex, we did. Once again initiated by her and I wasn’t really into it today. She’s always very sweet and kind when I first arrive. Once we do the dead though she does seem to shift a bit emotionally as if she got what she wanted. I’ve been straight forward in asking if she just wants to hook up with no strings attached but I don’t get straight answers. I understand it’s up to me to either play this game or kick her to the curb. She absolutely confuses me on what the hell is going on between us. Hot and cold but when I show up she acts as a gf would. I guess this is the shit show of eating in 2024.