Hiatus

Pro-IDGAF · 2024-12-27T20:54:04+00:00

i started hanging with a biking buddy and his girlfriend and partying alot. found an old girlfriend to hook up with, partied like a 20 year old. it worked for me but i was glad to be divorced. she was miserable to be around.

regaining my independence and a peaceful life was enough for me.

electromattic · 2024-12-27T15:15:12+00:00

I joined one of those "save your marriage" programs. It covered a lot of relationship theory, which was helpful to point out the things I had neglected in our relationship (building and maintaining emotional connection, leading, etc....) likely leading to the breakdown. It wasn't helpful in fixing anything but gave me perspective and certainly an understanding of where I will need to do better next time I am in a long term relationship (this guy is never getting married again).

But part of the program was a weekly men's group zoom call where we would talk about what was going on in our lives and support each other, and the leader of the group would give coaching to us on where we were challenged. So to hear from other men also struggling with their marriages at various points of breakdown was comforting and really helped me feel not so alone.

As men we are trained from a young age to display strength and hide weakness and vulnerability so naturally it can be very hard for a lot of us to open up emotionally when something so traumatic as this occurs. So having a safe, non-judgmental space to talk about my relationship with others who "get it" allowed me to process and accept what was happening, and to plan and build my new life.

regertsrus · 2024-12-26T14:32:49+00:00

Go to one of these single women resorts if you wanna rawdog a tail.

ExaminationKlutzy194 · 2024-12-26T10:57:40+00:00

I have some decent PTO from my employer and in years past I have always rolled portions of it over. So I’ve got a decent bank of it.

Since the divorce has been going on, about every 2 months, I’ve been talking off on a Thursday/Friday. I get a few more complicated things done here at the house. And I spend some time doing things I enjoy. I’ll go to a coffee shop and read a book. Take the dog on a longer walk at a state park. Eat wings at a sports bar and watch a game. That sort of thing.

I have given thought to the AP or the Sierra Nevada trail or at least potions of it. I think that this coming summer I will look to schedule a few days in the UP in the Porcupine Mountains doing a backpacking trip.

A longer motorcycle tour is in the cards next year too.

I just can’t and don’t want to quit. Not because of her.

No_Pace2396 · 2024-12-26T05:41:49+00:00

2 years of crazy ex and family court, I finally broke down, quit my shit job. Needed to simplify my life. I’ll come back to see my kids one week a month but the rest of the time I plan to be on the road in Mexico or wherever I want to bike or ride. Or I’ll take the lowest responsibility lowest pay job at some ski mountain. IDC. If I didn’t have kiddos I’d take off. AT trail or pan American highway.

savageFC · 2024-12-26T01:56:24+00:00

I traveled (still now! In Latin America, downloaded a few dating apps, worked out, worked on myself, smoked weed, sight seeing.

I journaled about what happened and recorded myself on audio and video.

Took it a day at a time.

Sending you good vibes and you’re not the first nor last to go through it.

Merry Christmas

Illustrious_Can_7698 · 2024-12-26T01:34:20+00:00

I spent ten days in a psych ward trying to adjust to the new reality of wife not wanting to stay married. That was an experience that does not need to be repeated.

OutlandConnectionTA · 2024-12-26T00:55:16+00:00

Medication has helped me survive. My beloved wife of 7 years told me in October she thinks she's gay and, from what I can tell, started a relationship that very night with her lesbian AP/best friend. Moved out the next week, leaving me all the dogs and our house. It's been a total fucking nightmare. Two attempts. Hours upon hours in search of therapy, psychiatrists, changing PCPs so I can get meds, and bumming Buspirone from a family member to get through until I can get my own script.

Shitty thing is I'd take her back tomorrow no questions asked. Fuckin end me.

Title	Hiatus
Author	SSniper_Monke
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	December 25, 2024 10:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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