is it hopeless?

Archwinger · 2015-09-17T15:40:09+00:00

Sluts are for fucking. You don't try to turn a slut into a girlfriend. Neither one of you will be happy with that arrangement.

F_Dingo · 2015-09-17T17:12:04+00:00

she's working in another state for a few months and i only see her on the weekends.

Break up, LDR's never work.

RedPillJax · 2015-09-17T15:33:02+00:00

I just found this site a few days ago

Good, good first step. You have a lot of reading and internalizing to do before you can expect any kind of change.

I'm trying to keep my anger for myself and instead will now hit the gym a few times the week to do something about that.

Excellent, and use that anger as motivation to build a gym routine based on discipline, so you don't stop going once the sting wears off.

here also is a general disinterest in me lately which started a few months ago. she's working in another state for a few months and i only see her on the weekends. i'm pretty sure so far nothing has happened but reading trp made me paranoid as fuck, now i'm always thinking she's cheating on me.

LDR's don't really work, as a rule. It's temporary, but IMO you should be putting in the work to develop an abundance mentality now so when / if it turns out she's not interested in you anymore, you don't get oneitis any worse than you probably have it now.

If she's showing general disinterest in you and you only get to see her a couple of times a week, that's a big red flag. She should be hideously excited to see you and craving your attention, not tolerating it.

Keep lifting, keep coming back. You're at the beginning of the journey. Hopefully we can continue to help you out.

throw_em_all · 2015-09-17T15:28:27+00:00

Go dread if you're willing to stick around, personally you had my next at "girlfriend" and "was a slut".

Once a slut always a slut, and if she's not doing it with you, you're being used.

1NV0K3R · 2015-09-17T15:40:35+00:00

i have a girlfriend that was a slut in the pa

Stopped reading. Get over it or NEXT.

FrameWalker · 2015-09-17T16:52:39+00:00

Its a bummer but you can't ever get the loyalty and respect you deserve from a slut. Cut down your investment and move on

WolfenSatyr · 2015-09-17T15:33:36+00:00

Make it clear what you want from her. If she denies you, walk away.

I'm pretty sure with enough attitude adjustment you'll find a girl that will do all that.

The_BeardedGentleman · 2015-09-17T15:41:26+00:00

slut for others but not for you? Sounds like a next.

Metal_Marcus · Thu Sep 17 17:23:48 2015 UTC

You can't turn a hoe into a housewife

selvhat · 2015-09-17T16:08:06+00:00

Thanks to everyone for the replies. I've read savingthebest. Well what should i say... the truth hurts but i'm aware of that.

Yes she was a slut and mostly drunk when she fucked around. I don't care about that shit i would've done the same if i could. it would be unfair using that against her, the only thing bothering me is don't get the same treatment. I would have done far more extreme stuff but i haven't and that's my fault for wasting my youth.

On the beginning of the relationship it wasn't that bad. at least she wanted to try new stuff... now i have to beg for every little thing.

Raiden2 · 2015-09-17T15:31:59+00:00

Cut your losses and move on. You aren't doing it for her, and once they've ridden the carousel and gotten fucked silly by Chad enough times anything less will just bore them.

Look up the "Saving the Best" post by Rollo (The Rational Male) for a better explanation into what is going on in this relationship. Then decide what you need to do.

redpillcynic · 2015-09-17T15:55:17+00:00

First, yes she's your first but get over it. Pussy is easy to get once you know how. Plate or next, hoes don't change

Stayinghereforreal · 2015-09-17T15:58:26+00:00

If i have a girlfriend that was a slut in the past and doesn't want to do the same things with me as she did with former guys - is there even any hope for improvement?

Read this.

http://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/

tempusers · 2015-09-17T16:57:45+00:00

| but reading trp made me paranoid as fuck
I am dealing with this too. Trouble determining which women are the more, honest/good/modest ones (as far as possible, everyone has some history), and which are actively engaging in sex every chance they get.
Having recently found myself called "platonic" but there are also conflicting flirts and touching, obvious IOIs it's driving me crazy.
Do I still try to escalate and fuck my new female room mate, just to get it out of the way?

Scurvemuch · 2015-09-17T19:19:29+00:00

you are a beta provider for her. I didn't read any but the first sentence and don't have to. Sidebar.

Glennus626 · 2015-09-17T23:29:50+00:00

You can't change a zebras stripes. Once a slut, always a slut. No matter what you decide, keep working on yourself and for god's sake, embrace abundance mentality. Just because she's your first gf, doesn't mean you couldn't have a plate gagging on your cock in current gf's bed tomorrow. That paranoia and jealousy is toxic, so focus on you.

mechdemon · 2015-09-18T00:30:33+00:00

Why are you giving commitment to a slut? that's a sucker's game, get out now.

Title	is it hopeless?
Author	selvhat
Upvotes	16
Comments	31
Date	September 17, 2015 3:04 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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