Escalated too quickly, after?

seduction-ModTeam · 2025-01-11T17:30:41+00:00

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InternationalSwan162 · 2025-01-11T14:02:14+00:00

You guys keep forcing physical escalation and it’s really unnecessary. Touching them won’t make them magically attracted to you. You almost always come off as too aggressive or horned up.

It’s such a flawed mentality around seduction, physical escalation should occur naturally after you’ve built real tension. Doing that requires everything but touching her.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-01-11T13:45:11+00:00

After you make a mistake, there's not much else to be done except learn from your mistake!

If she's still receptive you can quickly apologize, ask her if you moved too quickly, and pull back a bit. Sometimes that can work. But the best thing to do is to not make a mistake in the first place.

Lonely_Computer_2058 · 2025-01-11T14:10:56+00:00

AMOG/dartagnan… sorry you lost me

Glacier_Sama · 2025-01-11T14:18:19+00:00

How exactly did this guy steal the girl🧐

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-01-11T14:54:33+00:00

Shit happens man. You already described the problems. No need for me to lecture you. We make mistakes and we learn from them. On to the next one.

Sword_and_Shot · 2025-01-11T15:46:43+00:00

I always ask for the kiss funnily and see her reaction.

The ammount of escalation u need is suggesting u want the kiss, but u shouldnt do any move too fast. Everything should be slow so she can think what to do and have time to deny it smoothly so u can have another chance later.

I usually do it when the conversation is running out of subjects or is getting to the end. But flirting and complimenting all date long so she can start thinking about the possibility of a kiss way before.

E.g.: Once I was walking on a beach alone with a friend of mine. We never did anything. We stopped at some point near some rocks and I thought the place looked stunning.

I then, said smth like "hey, look at place! Doesn't look awesome?! It's the perfect place to end a romantic date with a passionate kiss, don't you agree?"

After I said that, she agreed, we kept talking for a couple minutes about romantic places than I held her hand and brought her to the rocks. We had some small talk and then I slowly did the move: Started playing with her hair and slowly brought my face closer to hers. At that point she was moving for the kiss as well.

Those moves sound and look artificial, like borrowed from a movie, but believe me, they really work. If u make sure the move happens u'll never be too slow.

I always get my kiss when doing this and everytime people call me out for doing this is to talk positively about the move

r_gui · 2025-01-11T16:56:49+00:00

Unfortunately, if you don't fix that desperation, it'll ruin not just your dating life, but most likely your future relationships if you manage to somehow get lucky.

Ever heard "we haven't had sex in [X] months"? How about "Not now"?

Why is bring this up?: they all have the exact problem. Sometimes men focus so much on th physical aspect, they forget everything we do is mental first.

In the future, don't touch. Speak, play, laugh, and joke. She'll touch you. Enjoy the moment with her and tease.

In basketball, you don't want to "reach." Same thing. "Don't reach, young blood."

Things will naturally flow if you let it. Desperation is an ugly look, and nobody likes it. Good luck out there!

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-01-11T13:50:50+00:00

The best way to prevent this from happening is to see if she consent. Look at her face when escalating, usually when it's uncalibrated you can tell from the facial expression and you can quickly stop the escalation and countinue doing what you were doing before and try again in 5 minutes.

What you're describing is uncalibrated escalation, so uncalibrated in fact that others around you can tell. I have a post on escalation that gave an example on calibrated escalation.

Title	Escalated too quickly, after?
Author	stavrosmachinima
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	January 11, 2025 1:39 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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