What to do at a bar/club?

KumaFGC · 2025-01-20T06:38:59+00:00

Go to a club with a dj that way you can dance and break the touch barrier easier. Most girls already know what type of time you're on so they sometimes make it easier.

epimpstyle · 2025-01-20T09:17:14+00:00

Yes, you have to talk, but not platonically, make jokes, and be funny/interesting because you have to show positivity and optimism. You build a funnel, the big part of the funnel is the girls you approach and the goal is to get them to your house - so you move towards that goal. Getting her number is part of that process because you take them in another day on a date. During the conversation, you need to find out who she is there with, how she is getting home, her plans for later/tomorrow/weekend (maybe an instadate appears), take her number, when she is free to meet again with you (for a date in future)- things like that. If you don't have their phone, no instate leave and talk to other girls. You will repeat the same things with every girl you start a conversation with and after a while these things will become routine, you will give funny/interesting answers.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-01-20T06:25:53+00:00

Why you should read my nightclub guide. It's practical and someone actually implemented the advice on that post and posted a field report on it.

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-01-20T14:08:49+00:00

Yes and no. You should have a plan of action if a woman begins pursuing you. And no, you should not be going to bars/clubs trying really hard to get women and always be thinking of next steps.

You need to live in the moment and have some structure/purpose to your night out. Don’t go aimlessly wandering around trying to make something happen. Have a couple of places to go to. Maybe start with a bar, hit up a live band/club type of place, then end the night at a lounge or a nightcap party at your place. Have a plan for yourself and what you are doing.

When you come to the first place, head to the bar. Get drinks, chat people up, ask them “how’s your Friday night going?”, cheers with them, shoot the shit. If it’s women, just banter with them. Here is an example. One day I was out with a friend at a bar/restaurant and I see a group of 3-4 girls out on a bachelorette party. So I stop by their table and I ask them:

“Omg, are you getting married?”

So they are like “yeah our friend is getting married, woohoo”

And I say, faking concern: “girl…..DON’T do it! You still have time to walk away”

They are like “what; why not, what are you talking about”, I say that I’m joking of course and that I’m happy for her. Then I say:

“By the way, if you need any male strip club recommendations, just let me know.”

And of course they are like “oh, are you offering to dance for us?”

Then banter with “oh, it’s my night off, I would have to charge you double, plus I’m not all oiled up, blah blah blah”.

This is just an example of a fun interaction, where there are no expectations. I don’t want to get anything from them. I’m not hunting for numbers, I’m not there to pick them up, seduce them, etc. I’m there having fun. I give people/ women the gift of escaping their boring mundane lives.

Now, I’m married, so I would never do anything, but if I was single and open to giving them an opportunity, I might say “hey, my friend and I are hitting this club later, here is my phone number, hit me up if you want to”.

If they are looking for fun and to have a couple of cute guys to flirt with and do shots with, they will probably text. If not, who gives a fuck. There are a million attractive women. I don’t get attached to an outcome. I don’t talk to them because I expect something in return. The more you adopt this attitude, the more your interactions with women will be fun and positive.

If you have been chatting up a woman for some time and you are clicking, tell her “it’s getting so stuffy here, I’m going to step outside for some fresh air, are you coming or are you coming?”

The way I ask this is just fun but I’m not actually sitting around waiting for her to make a decision for the two of you. I’m going one way or another and they usually follow. Outside, you can look at the stars and find a dark spot to make out. Once you make out, just say “I’m going back in” and start walking.

Have another drink or whatever and then say “I’m getting out of here. Have another drink early day tomorrow, but will probably grab a night cap at my place. You are welcome to join me”.

Now it’s very important that you don’t say this because you want her to come. You have to be indifferent one way or the other. You are extending an invitation, but not waiting around for her. If she’s unsure, just say “ok cool, bye” and start walking. When you develop the power to easily walk away, women will sense that there is something about you and they will not want to miss out on it. It may take some time but it will happen. Trust the process.

TheRealAlkemyst · 2025-01-21T01:34:53+00:00

Just relax, focus on the discussion and not all of those lead to a finish. Dance, talk about the music, talk about everything. Chill. One thing I did was offer if she wanted to take off her shoes so I can rub her feet. It's non-sexual (but in fact it is). I'd find myself getting asked to go somewhere else :)

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-01-22T19:22:22+00:00

In order to do well in bars and clubs you need to be proficient in dealing with groups first . In bars you will rarely see a cute girl by herself, so you need to know how to talk to her group .

I would say always open the most friendly person in the group or the person you have the easiest access to .

Than ask that person to introduce you to the girl you want to talk to.

Then from there you need to isolate the girl a bit so you can flirt with her without her friends watching her and making her feel guilty . Then get some level of investment and take her out of the club .

I get lost in all these threads sometimes so send me a DM if you want more explanations.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-01-20T07:06:53+00:00

I made a guide called "The Ultimate Pickup Guide" I'm a just about done with it. This version is like 98% done. It'll set you up for a good time.

https://fastupload.io/4f67b2376e43a145

Title	What to do at a bar/club?
Author	LifeIsBallOrMongolia
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Date	January 20, 2025 6:20 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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