• Divorced last year may. 8~ months later.
  • Oldest son lives with me, 2 younger ones with their mum (till age 12 they live with mum by law)

I went from a completely destroyed person with a massive depression to my current positive much happier state.

Things i do to improve my life, and highly recommend to help you.

  • 1: Daily gym, 5 times per week, currently weighting 69 KG, doing 1 hour of cardio and 1 hour of heavy weight lifting a day. You are litterly shaping the best self this way, it is a tremendous energy and self-confidence boost.
  • 2: Supplements, healthy diet, good sleep:
  • Religion: I felt no purpose in life, no friends, spiritually bankrupt.
    • I made friends, weekly hang with people who genuinely care about you, have goals and found meaning in life, a great coping mechanism for my depressive thoughts. I honestly feel in this age and day we lost our sense of spirituality/connection that goes deeper then our materialistic/social media world.

Is my life all great now?!

No i still live in a old run down shitty flat apartment, that has requires a ton of work to make it decent (my goal for 2025 to complete this)

Financially run down to the ground, i do not have any savings, no money to go out and date, no car because cannot afford it. (2026 goal to up my financial standing)

I still have moments where i have intense hate for my ex, but it wanes with every month, i know by end of next year she means nothing to me anymore, and i will be able to face her when i exchange the kids for the weekend without any lust, love, hate or jealousness for her.

I also get way less triggered by her antics, she still apply her usual antics to set people/instances etc against me, i no longer care, told her a man who has nothing to lose, stop caring.

She still tries to manipulate me by withholding the kids from me, telling teachers how shit i am etc. I no longer care, i need the best, strongest and emotionally stable dad for my kids, i will miss out time with them when they are young due my ex, but i also made terms with it, i love them very very much, i see them currently 2 weekends per month and we always have a blast, i will always make them love me more then her.

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I have made a specific set of goals for this year that are achievable for me, that are directly tangible and increase my overall happiness, confidence and success in life.

1: buy some nice clothes get well and fancy dressed, no more sloppy skaterboy style.

2: get ripped in the gym

3: fix my kitchen, kids room, hallway to make the house half decent so i can invite potential woman.

Set goals, write them down and double down on them, make them achievable, so you know you will improve your life in those segments this very year.