I personally had 3 women in my life I could say I fell in blind love with, with about a 10 year interval. One at age 6, one at 15, and one at 27. I was painting them. I wrote songs and poetry about them and had romantic dreams. Those feelings were inspiring me to create, and also when I thought about ever having kids, I could imagine having them only with those women. They were so beautiful to me. And yeah to me they were pretty af but I was dating a literal miss Utah too (not one of those 3 kek) and I didn't feel anything close to what I felt when I REALLY was in love.

None of the 3 ever loved me back choosing "better options", and also I look at the current perceived state of the dating market and it's so difficult to understand how to be loved. Like, even if I had all the money and all success in the world, how is that even connected with someone falling in unconditional love with me?

Do women even feel that kind of love? Not because "he's from a good family and has a nice job and a social circle and runs a business", but just because brain goes "bro I don't care but here's a bunch of butterflies in the stomach and a coffee, sit down we recording a song about her eyes".

I'd think it was a teenage thing but I've had it at 27 lol. After our first date I LITERALLY saw her damn eyes for the entire night when I was closing my eyes. And yeah she just went back to her more expensive husband she divorsed earlier.

It feels like the whole social discussion about dating is about "sex vs resources vs abuse, choose what you're ok with", but like... blind fucking love. isn't that a thing anymore? I never see women talk about it. Do they even feel this?

Sorry this is so long but I'm curious what other people think of the topic. maybe share your personal stories or research/art, idc.

Peace.