Hey guys,

I really need some advice because I feel completely stuck when it comes to meeting girls in clubs. My friend and I go out pretty often, but we always end up in the same situation: just the two of us, hanging around near groups of attractive girls, but never actually making a move.

We’re both really shy, and all we want is to improve, but we have no clue how to do it. We try not to be too obvious, but we definitely check them out a little, and then somehow, we just end up standing there, not knowing what to do. Meanwhile, we see other guys approach, talk, dance, and eventually leave with girls, while we’re still stuck in our own little bubble.

My friend even tried asking a girl for her Instagram once, but she straight-up rejected him. The truth is, we don’t know how to approach a girl on the dancefloor. Do we go up from behind? Do we look her in the eyes first? How do we even start talking to her in a way that doesn’t feel awkward? We’re totally lost, and we need a step-by-step guide like we’re complete beginners.

We even thought about drinking more to loosen up, but we’re not sure if that’s the right move either. We just want to finally break out of this and actually connect with girls in a natural way.

So, please, if you have real advice—how to approach, what to say, how to get past the initial awkwardness—teach us everything from A to Z. We really want to improve, because it’s not only about girls, it’s about our masculinity and also about other areas in our lives.

Thanks in advance!