How do you go in ‘Approach Mode’ on demand?

dogenes09 · 2025-02-17T16:57:54+00:00

It’s an important life skill that goes well beyond pickup. Can you adapt to be appropriate to the situation in less than a second? You’re walking down the street angry, but a kid comes up and asks for something to eat- can you adjust the be the compassionate person they need in under a second? You’re walking with your girl after a date, laughing, flirting and having a good time- suddenly 3 guys jump out of the shadows with obvious ill-intent… can you go from entertainer to fighter in less than one second?

Learning to change in an instant is important. Practice this in ALL things, not just women.

In terms of HOW, seated meditation is the best tool. Despite how “passive” it may seem to the uninitiated.

Apples_into_Snapple · 2025-02-17T17:02:41+00:00

Something that does not get talked about much anymore, but was a big part of the old school pick up community was to do “warm up” sets and get in a conversational state before hand.

ie Go to the mall and talk to people, compliment strangers, even talk to Customer service people for a bit. It will help you get into a more happier conversational mood.

Unless you’re living with like 5+ people in house, are in college, or your day to day job is sales, the average adult does not have a lot of socialization on the daily.

Also important STAY POSITIVE and HAVE FUN when talking to people. Being pessimistic and thinking you’ll get a bad approach will make things harder

CommanderBayou · 2025-02-17T17:16:39+00:00

I warm up by talking to a few dudes at a bar or club, then I start going for it. Some dudes see me approaching girls and they sort of pat me on the back for doing it, builds momentum for me. Or if you dont want to do that, do some warm up platonic sets like talking with the bartender or bouncer

MrPound4Pound · 2025-02-17T17:21:35+00:00

Warming up and practicing will help your approaching skills on demand. If you're not willing to put in the time to approach, then there's not much to help you. You need to find the time. Make time if you have to. It's like asking how do I get better at making a game winning shot for my team? I can't really find time to practice cause time constraints.

Take two basketball players. One who only plays pickup games every other week. Another who's practicing every other day and also plays pickup games every week. Who do you think is going to perform better if an impromptu game just popped out and both had to play the game right there and then?

For me, I had to give up a lot of my time to practice getting better at approaching women. I have so many hobbies. But I had to give up a lot of these for months to make time specifically for going out to hone my approaching skills. I even would do them after a tiring day after work. No excuses. Head straight to the grocery, pretend to shop lmao, and find a chick to approach.

Make the time to practice and once you get better and more confident, those impromptu approaches will be easier to do.

HomelessMilkman · 2025-02-18T12:51:58+00:00

It's just expressing yourself freely without thinking about it.

You don't go into 'approach mode', that's your natural state; self-esteem.

It's the effort of walking around judging, comparing yourself, filtering your behaviour, analysing situations, depleting your energy on 'ego' and expecting to have more energy on top of that. It's about converving your energy and effort by staying relaxed, loose, non-judgmental, etc.

People are naturally 'defensive' because 'everything is a percieved threat'. You're scanning for 'threats' all the time, it's exhausting. Realistically, it's not the case and you have to learn to drop 'the shield', you have to stop the need to filter everything through your ego to feel safe; when you do so, when you're able to 'perform' it demonstrates status since you're the most comfortable in the environment.

What you'll notice is that you're practically proving to yourself the environment is safe before you can relax; that you can be freely expressive and no one will kill you for it. You claim 'situational status', but when the environment changes you feel 'unsafe' again. To have consistency, you have to feel safe and relaxed in foreign environments.

epimpstyle · 2025-02-17T19:37:36+00:00

If you are alone in your room, it is not possible to get into a social mood quickly, but if you are out with your friends, it is possible to get into approach mode quite easily and quickly.

Title	How do you go in ‘Approach Mode’ on demand?
Author	DrFlyAnarcho
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	February 17, 2025 4:48 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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