Approach anxiety challenges

bodd619 · 2025-03-10T21:00:47+00:00

I'd say the starting point depends on your current level, first determine what makes you nervous and what can you do normally

For example something like this was what I did to get rid of approach anxiety. I realized asking for directions was good for me so I started doing since level #3 you but you get the idea, all of this is with women ofc and i did it until I felt really comfortable doing all

Ask for directions and leave
Ask for directions, make a comment and leave
Make a compliment (not physical) and leave, so something like "hi excuse me, just wanted to let you know that I like xyz"
Making a compliment + One follow up comment and leave
Opening with the same compliment, talk for 1 or 2 minutes and feel free to leave after that
Opening, talk for as much as I could and leave
Opening, talk and ask for a number only if I saw she was truly interested
Opening, talk, flirt directly and leave
Opening, talk, flirt and ask for a number

At first I had to do dedicated sessions for this, when I realized I could do it anytime I stopped doing dedicated sessions for this and just got into my day to day life

-MrsInterrupted- · 2025-03-10T20:51:16+00:00

Start by giving a genuine compliment, everyone loves to feel noticed! We’re generally wary of strangers cause we think they might want something from us. Giving a compliment allows you to actually just offer something meanwhile it can give you a chance to gauge her interest

DaygameCode · 2025-03-10T23:47:32+00:00

Approach anxiety is “overcome” by doing the actual mindset work. Sure, you can force yourself to approach with anxiety but it’s not a long-term solution.

Anxiety is just an emotion that predicts bad future outcomes in an attempt to get you ready for them, so you can avoid them or handle them with grace.

You can’t ignore it because even if the approaches you forced yourself to do didn’t end up in disaster, anxiety still will think there are things that could go wrong in the future approaches. Hence, you are always going back to square one.

You first need to recognize what those fears are:

Afraid of rejection? Afraid of a woman’s judgment? Afraid you could get proof that you are not good enough? That you are worth nothing? Afraid of her screaming? scolding you? looking at you with disdain? laughing at you? Humiliating you? Afraid of making her uncomfortable? Upsetting her? Making her cringe? Her boyfriend or someone else intervening? Fear of not performing well? Choking? Stuttering? Going blank?

Any of these require you to really do some heavy inner work to really be free from anxiety as well as learning social skills to handle any pressure or uncomfortable situation.

MrPound4Pound · 2025-03-10T23:43:01+00:00

I started off doing the phone number rejection challenge that I saw off of YouTube. I would go up to chicks at the mall. Approach them and say excuse me, can I have your phone number. 99% they will say no. You just say oh ok have a nice day. Walk away. Somewhere far away lmao. Find another chick and repeat. It eased me into getting rejected and becoming comfortable with that discomfort as well as the walk of shame lmao. The number of times you decide to do it depends all on you. I felt 10 was good enough for me then I moved on to another step but for others it may take more.

MysteryLiezer · 2025-03-10T20:01:19+00:00

Like what?

Let’s work through this!

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For context, give me some examples of what these creative challenges/small steps could look like.

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Whether or not you think they’re valid suggestions, let’s get the ball rolling, as far as highlighting these potential exercises!

Dandys3107 · 2025-03-11T06:43:25+00:00

Back in my beginnings, I used to warm up with Demonic Confidence programm. You can use some ideas that are covered there, approach beautiful girl every minute for 30 minutes and ask them for time/directions/opinion/give compliment. Generally, just make the most casual interactions, with most guys the point is they are hardly ever interacting with strangers, so approaching stranger girl to ask her out sounds like mission impossible. But, if you warm up your body and mind to remind yourself how to do it properly and elevate your energy, things will become much much easier.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-03-11T15:00:50+00:00

Just have to do it really. No easy way

Aggravating-Tea-5583 · 2025-03-11T19:53:25+00:00

I highly recommend what I do which is just a variation of what others are saying

but I just get used to paying people compliments on the street

First saying "i like your dog or something" when you pass the street

second doing the same but saying excuse me before to practice getting someone to stop and be more open to actual conversation etc ...

CrazyFrog22121998 · 2025-03-11T19:56:14+00:00

Thank you all for great advices.

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-03-14T09:09:04+00:00

I could give you a few challenges but they probably won't work. It's an interactive process and it's best for e under the guidance of someone experienced.

Plus if there are deeper issues with your belief or traumatic experiences you need to have deeper work done under guidance of an expert .

I know because I was suicidal and I had traumatic issues from girls accusing me of harassment. But it's over now. I'm cured I can approach a d find dates anytime I get outside of the house.

Title	Approach anxiety challenges
Author	CrazyFrog22121998
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Date	March 10, 2025 7:43 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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