UK: Man who paid twins' child maintenance for 16 years is told he was never their legal father

Salamadierha · 2025-03-14T14:24:50+00:00

He's never met the kid, but the mother is concerned that she'll feel rejected?

It's just a money grab. She should be required to pay it back, could do it by wage garnishing, they seem keen on that method.

BreakGrouchy · 2025-03-14T13:37:48+00:00

What if the guy paying was a victim of abuse and depression? It’s still possible he just messed up . But I doubt he isn’t suffering from depression.

JettandTheo · 2025-03-14T14:23:38+00:00

It's common. If you are legally married, you sure assumed to be the father and will be (potentially) forced to pay support if you divorce. This normally comes up with cheating or marrying a woman who is already pregnant

I'm on the fence with this as he knowingly entered the relationship with the woman getting pregnant.

But he should also be able to be the father. Women getting full custody is a crime against the children and the father.

Futureman999 · 2025-03-15T00:13:25+00:00

'Importantly he told me that he had 'written off' the money which he had paid to the mother for the children over the last 15 years; he has no wish to recover it.

I'd want the damn money back, maybe not with interest but total it up and give it back. Garnish the lying mother's wages until the debt is paid, even if it means she can never retire because that's the deal she demands from him.

Shreddersaurusrex · 2025-03-14T19:25:21+00:00

🎶16 years, 16 years she had two of your years had you for 16 years🎶

SomeoneRandom007 · 2025-03-14T22:34:11+00:00

That man should be able to sue for his investment in someone else's kids and his support for his wife, plus interest, plus massive damages against her for fraud, emotional abuse, and denying him the chance to have his own children.

Imoldok · 2025-03-15T20:56:28+00:00

Reverse lawsuit on that one. Now she gets to pay him.

od1nsrav3n · 2025-03-14T12:01:27+00:00

To be honest, is this not on the man?

He knew and admits he wasn’t their biological father, if he’d have went to court much sooner he wouldn’t have had to pay anything?

The headline is very misleading, he didn’t find out he wasn’t their father, a court ruled he wasn’t in the legal sense.

This is not a men’s rights issue at all.

It’s surprising this is getting downvoted so much when it’s a complete fact, this sub is always talking about truth and how unfair things are, yet when a man can and has complete control over his own situation we all have to pretend there’s some force against him and his rights? GTFO.

dgillz · 2025-03-14T19:37:10+00:00

Do you by chance mean "biological father"? Because legal father is something different, at least i the USA.

Title	UK: Man who paid twins' child maintenance for 16 years is told he was never their legal father
Author	furchfur
Upvotes	661
Comments	28
Date	March 14, 2025 11:41 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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