I have seen a lot of people call the male loneliness epidemic the “loser” epidemic but honestly I feel like this is part of the problem. Calling these men losers for not living up to misandrist gender stereotypes that men need to be good enough for women. Also, I honestly think isolation is a better word than loneliness because there is a sense of isolation with being a man and the fact that their problems are being dismissed like this plays a part in it. The problem isn’t just men not being able to get girlfriends (although that does play a part in it which people interpret as men thinking they’re entitled to women) but it’s also; - the lack of support for men - the dismissal of male problems - blaming men - individualism - seeing constant misandry - men being portrayed as predators - male gender roles (and how men are supposed to be liked by women to be good enough) - issues with sexuality (e.g. women not being accepting of more fluid male sexuality) - the idea that men have it easy and so don’t need help/they can just deal with it alone - so much more

They also portray this issue as only affecting cis straight men but it also affects gay/bisexual and trans men too.

Also a lot of it is about gender roles. Many men feel like in order to even have a chance they need to live up to the expectations of masculinity in order for women to even glance at them, whether they want to be stereotypically masculine or not. For example, paying for everything, having loads of money, being the leader, being a stoic rock for the woman, etc.

I just feel like these people lack empathy and they are not willing to listen to men and call men losers for not living up to gendered expectations which ironically is one of the reasons men feel so lonely.