Getting Divorced after 10 years

Asian_Insider · 2025-04-29T12:00:32+00:00

The loneliness you’re feeling is real.
And you’re not weak for feeling it.

Most men don’t talk about it, but divorce doesn’t just tear a relationship apart—it tears your entire social world apart too.

You didn’t just lose a wife.
You lost the comfort of having someone in your corner every day, even if the marriage itself had gone cold.

Here's the truth:

This loneliness you’re feeling right now isn't a punishment.
It’s an invitation.

It’s in this silence, in this empty space, that a man either:

Drowns in isolation or
Rebuilds himself from the ground up into something stronger, sharper, and more alive than ever before.

You’re standing at the beginning of that path.

It's going to feel heavy at first.
It’s going to feel unfair.

But trust this:
If you walk it with patience and power, the friendships you forge now—the man you become now—will be built on strength, not convenience.

BornBandicoot2515 · 2025-04-26T15:12:26+00:00

If you don’t have kids then you situation still sucks but believe me, could be way worse. Coparenting with an X you don’t like is dogshit.

You must force yourself into social situations. Yeah not ideal, I get it, but it will help. As stated above - church, gym, social club of some sort. Work friends, whatever.

I think you should also be in therapy.

Really it comes down to: Therapy Support team (even by phone) Staying busy (keep moving and get out of the house) Improve yourself (read paper books, workout)

Good luck and I’m sorry you are in a less than ideal situation. Btw, I’m a believer in no contact with the X. Hard for me bc we have kids but I want as little contact with her as possible. It’s not helpful to have them in your life as you are trying to process, move forward, and heal.

VeteranEntrepreneurs · 2025-04-26T09:40:45+00:00

Time to learn about how to be comfortable being lonely and make friends…take up a hobby? Join meetups. Do something new… and don’t date again until you are comfortable living in solitude and not being lonely.

ColdEstablishment172 · 2025-04-26T03:20:35+00:00

What state are you in?

dizzy078 · 2025-04-25T15:52:24+00:00

Me and my wife of 5 years (together 13) broke up in October.. I had a really unhappy 5 months before I joined a crossfit, I've always been a gym-goer but since going to more social things I think I've finally turned a corner.

Any hobbies you couldn't do when you were together or didn't have time? Well I can recommend getting out there again just to meet people, it's helped me immensely. Kayak club? Book club? Running/athletics club? Board games? Have a look what's in your locality.

DevinB12 · 2025-04-25T14:45:02+00:00

I'm struggling along these same lines... STBXW and I together for 15 years, married 13... all of our friends for the most part are couple friends that lean her way... My son, 13 yo, and step daughter 19 yo are the highlights now...trying to stay active and find new friends.

ExaminationKlutzy194 · 2025-04-25T12:04:59+00:00

Now isn’t a bad time to go to church if you are inclined. You will meet people. Not to date. Just to talk to. Try an evangelical type.

Grouchy_Software963 · 2025-04-25T02:22:19+00:00

Sorry, the strugle is real trust me.

Look at the postive of you don't have kids you can pick up and move to better places, or if you do have kids now is a time to find a hobby with a local club... you like guns, join the gun club, you like sports go to a sports bar, you like games go to the local game shop. Spend time with what you enjoy.

Title	Getting Divorced after 10 years
Author	supermoviebuff64
Upvotes	18
Comments	13
Date	April 24, 2025 6:58 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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