A little background for starters, I am a sophomore in college, and a year and a half ago I was 5’6 265 lbs, and I am now 5’8 175 lbs, definitely not where I wanna be but I wouldn’t consider myself unattractive now. I consider myself to be social, I love hanging out and just meeting new people in general. I try to live an active life, go to the gym 5 days a week, play pickleball or tennis or some kind of sport at least twice a week. Apart from this I am always trying out new social settings, going to club meetings: fashion, sailing, baking and cooking, rowing and all sorts of things I can immerse myself into. I don’t randomly approach women because I feel like my social circle expands enough to the point that there is always someone I can try to talk to. A couple of days ago was the breaking point, there was someone I knew through one of my friends’ friends and I decided to dm her and things were going well for a couple of days until she became uninterested and the conversation sort of died down. For some reason, that initial conversation made me think that that was finally it and the entire time spent working on myself was going to pay off. I tried to analyze if it was something in the conversation but everything was good, which made me come to the conclusion that it was me entirely which was at fault, maybe my personality isn’t all that well or maybe my physical appearance wasn't great, but something was and is definitely amiss. I can't seem to understand when it all ends and when it’ll start paying off, when it actually becomes enough, or when do I actually become attractive. Being in college and still being unable to find something definitely makes it all the more disappointing. I feel like giving up on all hope that I can have something real now. But I am still not going to give up, there is no way that in a space of thousands of people there is not a single person for me. I would love to have more advice on how I can work over this and how I can solve this because clearly there is something wrong.