Where is the line between having limiting beliefs and just being realistic with oneself?

Nugget834 · 2025-04-29T13:55:28+00:00

Great question. I'd also like to hear other people's thoughts on this

whatsitworth101 · 2025-04-29T14:17:14+00:00

I honestly think it depends.

I’ve always struggled with being self conscious. I’ve never really been that confident of a guy especially in social settings.

I have been told before that I’m good looking, and I do have good features like my eyes. And I am pretty tall. But I don’t think that I am really handsome. Maybe I am but I don’t see it, I actually think I’m kind of ugly.

I also don’t have that much experience in terms of actual game and like cold approaching. But recently I was able to pull this girl who was stunning and if I saw her beforehand I would’ve thought she was out of my league.

I was pretty drunk when I met her so I was more confident obviously but it kind of opened my eyes to the level of women I can attract.

Like she is an absolute stunner, and even her instagram she has like 5 k followers and all her posts have crazy comments and likes. I had no idea who she was when I met her but it worked out in the end.

What I’m saying is I wouldn’t put yourself in a bubble. That experience made me realize that I am more attractive than I thought.

If you somehow know that you aren’t attractive maybe it’s different, but I wouldn’t underestimate how much your own self confidence or lack of it could influence that.

aeturnus95 · 2025-04-29T19:23:36+00:00

Not to sound too abstract, but this would be my guess. Limiting beliefs are not you. Instead of making up your own boundaries of who you are, what you are.. etc, look at who you really are, what you really are capable of, and work with those boundaries. Instead of making up stuff. So the line is really where you put it

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-29T14:47:23+00:00

It’s called giving it a try.

I’ve tried approaching 3 sets like 5-6 times and every time it failed. So I know my limit is only 2 sets. I believe I can do it because I’ve seen guys do it. It’s not like it’s defying rules of nature like elevating up in the air lol.

But at the same time I know that’s where my limit is because I have tried several times. I just need to figure out how to do it differently.

ow3ntrillson · 2025-04-29T17:52:54+00:00

Well it’s about an accurate depiction of the limiting belief

An example would be someone with the limiting belief of “What’s the point in working out?” There’s a healthy, positive and rewarding point to exercising. It affects your self-perception and confidence levels in positive ways. I’d say someone that is unwilling and unable to recognize those positive aspects have limiting beliefs towards exercise & self-improvement.

hot_ellaa · 2025-04-29T19:45:32+00:00

interesting post, will wait for others perception on this, hmmm..

Newtabs9 · 2025-04-29T20:45:25+00:00

I think you know the answer deep within yourself.

It's not quite as common now, but when pickup was more 'full on', everything was a 'limiting belief' lol. It was super cringe! It was literally like 'I can't make that dunk because i'm literally 3ft tall'. ''LIMITING BELIEF!!!!'.

Most people who say this limiting belief stuff are saying it because it benefits their business.

ConfidenceMastery · 2025-04-30T00:40:33+00:00

Self awareness extremely important. So yeh some limiting beliefs may be true but doesn’t mean you can’t work or get better in those areas. Most of the time you’re thinking of limiting belief it’s for an excuse not to do something.

Flashas9 · 2025-05-08T23:31:05+00:00

Limiting beliefs also exist inside. Not just 'money is hard to mke', or 'I can't have him'. But inside 'if I get rejected it will feel horrible'. 'being alone feels horrible'. And when our brain tries to help us avoid 'danger' - it bring it to our awareness, and we experience, by focusing on it. Blocking us from getting what we want.

The only way out is to reprogram the fears.

Realism doesn't exist. Everything you see is a reflection of your perception.

The only reason why you can stand in the same club, one person feels anxiety and other feels comfort, is because of perceptions (beliefs) they have in their subconscious mind and programming. All but own manifestations of a 'different' reality.

Title	Where is the line between having limiting beliefs and just being realistic with oneself?
Author	mckn54
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	April 29, 2025 1:12 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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