Is approaching just for normal dudes ?

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-04-29T15:17:26+00:00

Quit worrying about "Chads." It's an old PUA and then incel fascination that doesn't affect you. Sure, there will be guys out there taller, more handsome and more naturally charismatic than you roaming about. So what? Work with what you have and be your natural self. Don't try to force "being an alpha" or put on a persona just to perceivably be more attractive. Stay in your lane and use your natural skill sets. Focus on women with more compatibility beyond the bedroom. Be happy and confident, not arrogant, in who you are.

Living_Promotion9714 · 2025-04-29T15:12:08+00:00

I had a wing who looked like a chad. He got an instant date in his second or third approach but then he said something bad to the girl and she left him.

My chad wing never used dating apps because he thinks its gay. He is high school drop-out but his father is rich asf so he has no money problem. He is white, tall, muscular. Did 5k approaches in his life and fucked a lot of girls. I asked him how many flakes he got and he said "A lot. I can't even count them".

KoleSekor · 2025-04-29T13:26:48+00:00

Chads might get approached from girls who are mid, but girls that are 8s, 9s, and 10s? They don't approach anyone, no.

I think it's because they know for a man to really "deserve" them, he has to show her he has confidence, courage, and charm. They watched enough Disney movies to see how the princess gets swept off her feet by the prince, not the other way around.

That's why women's advice for finding guys is "Just be yourself, it'll just happen" when guys have an entire calculus for finding and getting women.

Bandaka · 2025-04-29T15:37:07+00:00

Approaching people is your God given right as a human. Go talk to whoever you want. It’s free speech bro.

CrazyRepulsive8244 · 2025-04-30T01:41:18+00:00

YOULL NEVER BE ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH TO MAKE WOMEN APPROACH YOU CONSISTENTLY

stop pretending life is a movie and join us in real life

DirteeMouth · 2025-04-29T14:21:32+00:00

idk wtf a chad is but ik i get hit on and approached by women. Living by labels and basing a womans beauty by a number scale is bullshit that blocks guys from having a successful dating life and they cock block themselves from having an active sex life.

ZEN-AF_Official · 2025-04-29T15:56:15+00:00

If you're attractive you still need to approach because most women won't approach in general... but honestly last year when I got back into game and had a new glowup I worked on my physical appearance so much while still having terrible approach anxiety that one weekend I literally started getting approached a ton of times before I did any approaches... so technically you can just improve your appearance enough until girls approach you... but you'll be missing out on the ones who don't approach

jackthehat6 · 2025-04-29T20:42:18+00:00

almost nobody approaches! even at night! this is my observation of YEARS of night life. It's likely very culture dependent, though. I'm in the UK. The percentage of guys who approach random girls is TINY!! I imagine it's way more common in the US for example

Chad gets approached of course, but only at night in bars etc. My ex wing was a chad. Approached many times per night and hit on by hot girls. Almost impossible for him to mess up!! the whole 'running out of things to say' issue was irrelevant for him since SHE done all the talking as she was 'gaming' him lol

But he never ever got 'hit on' in the day time

connor42 · 2025-04-29T14:34:19+00:00

As in cold approach? Most men at all attractiveness levels aren’t doing that at all

Approach as in the man is the one that broaches and escalates romantic intention? Yes most men of all attractiveness levels do that

Most women will choose not to under either meaning as it runs counter to gender expectations / social conditioning / natural characteristics, but obviously it does happen

ConfidenceMastery · 2025-04-30T00:37:10+00:00

No. They do not. And arguably they approach less. However they will tend to be more social and so meet more women by default. And may have larger social circles as a result of this also.

Due-Campaign-5157 · 2025-04-30T01:28:05+00:00

Go to social spaces. Mfs be on the football field with a basketball.

Time_Big8377 · 2025-04-30T06:27:52+00:00

they might get approached and settle for an easier time. but i think this is the wrong sub for this question. you’re not getting approached and hence you have to approach

kenbsmith3 · 2025-04-30T15:12:56+00:00

Chads just get more overt signals from women... Women will obviously stare at them, for example.

Charm trumps everything though

JackSquirts · 2025-05-03T03:33:43+00:00

Have fun, be fun, learn to engage people in general while not giving a fuck what anyone thinks, then sprinkle in a little bold sexual tension. There you go - game, in a nutshell and all that matters.

Title	Is approaching just for normal dudes ?
Author	mckn54
Upvotes	21
Comments	22
Date	April 29, 2025 1:05 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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