RP women, what are we doing to build our emotional discipline ?

AngelFire_3_14156 · 2025-05-12T15:34:50+00:00

Emotional regulation or emotional intelligence is nothing new. It's actually quite ancient. It's a constant theme in the Old Testament wisdom books and in Greek and Roman philosophy. Many of the world's major religions also emphasize this.

For myself, I hit a crisis point after I divorced my first husband. Through therapy, reading and reflection I developed better emotional control. I'm not perfect, but lack of emotional control can be very destructive. Part of it is understanding your own feelings and that regulated emotions can lead you to better decision making.

Columba-livia77 · 2025-05-12T15:50:15+00:00

This is a great topic, and something I want to work on before I start dating again. One thing I'm doing is trying to stay away from the fear mindset like you say. 'More will always come' is something I sort of repeat to myself whenever I get into a scarcity mindset. I'm looking for work right now and starting to feel insecure, so it's definitely needed at the moment. I just tell myself that I've worked before and it's only a matter of time before I find something. I've learnt over time that you make worse decisions, and accept less, when you're operating mostly on fear.

MajesticShare2232 · 2025-05-12T15:58:21+00:00

I personally think it's because people are uncomfortable feeling their emotions and then just react to "deal" with the discomfort. Emotions are messengers. They are trying to tell us something. So to build discipline, we must learn to sit with the emotion and see what it is trying to tell us. From there, we can choose how we would like to respond rather than just flying off the cuff.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-05-12T16:01:40+00:00

I cannot recommend gratitude journaling enough. It is incredibly beneficial for building emotional awareness and recilience. Doing it as a daily practice is even better and strengthens your self-control. All good things for emotional discipline, imo.

AutoModerator · 2025-05-12T15:15:41+00:00

Title: RP women, what are we doing to build our emotional discipline ?

Author Few-Ant-5425

Full text: As I get older I’m starting to realize that as much as you can elevate yourself through remaining disciplined through your diet/exercise/lifestyle choices - the harder but far more rewarding work (long term) comes through building up your emotional discipline. From my personal observations simply studying my peers, serious emotional discipline is at an all time low right now.

So many people just walk through life with little to no emotional regulation; so they lash out, shut down, or seek distractions because they’re fundamentally operating impulsively under a mentality of fear, insecurity, and desperation whenever life gets hard.

In my opinion, building emotional discipline should be the first step to red pilling yourself because how can you even begin to accept the truth or lead your own life if you’re the type of person that can’t even sit with your own emotions ?

One of my biggest New Year’s resolutions is that I want to stop this bs of defaulting to being a passive passenger in my own life.

So now I’m just curious since I haven’t really seen convos like this in the sub, what are you ladies doing to build this kind of mindset ?

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Due-Tea1484 · 2025-05-13T21:10:05+00:00

As a Christian, I’m learning how to take every thought captive. Kevin Chapman has a great video series on YouTube

throwawaypinkclouds · 2025-05-14T19:53:47+00:00

I love this topic! Like another poster said, emotional discipline isn’t new. In my opinion, there are two things that are important for building emotional discipline: mindfulness and effective self soothing strategies. Mindfulness will help you become more aware of your triggers and self soothing will help you decrease the anxiety surrounding these triggers. I also recommend therapy to identify any limiting beliefs and behaviors that aren’t helping you.

Familiar_Accident802 · 2025-05-18T19:57:57+00:00

I have done a series of things, specially since COVID (I was 21 then) and had a lot of time to reflect. 1. Exercise, of course as you mentioned, made me more resilient and less stressed so I had this mechanism to let my feelings flow. 2. I go to therapy. I don’t use my friends or family to talk to about my problems, I have my therapist for that. I met her two years ago and we work well together. She makes me see my flaws from a third person perspective and helps me shape that. 3. I socialize. A lot. I am an introvert, but I force myself to go out and talk to people. One of the big problems people have now is the lack of socialization from the technological era, and therefore we lose touch of what actual human connection should be like. This helps me measure my interactions and see how I can help others more.

Competitive-Catch776 · 2025-05-19T15:00:22+00:00

I journal using shadow work/ self help prompts. This is actually considered a form of CBT. My therapist told me about it and I’ve been hooked ever since. It really helps me keep track of where I’m at. I keep the journals and will recycle through prompts and go back and see what sort of progress I’ve made or if is there is an area that I need to focus on more at certain times.

If I’m having a particularly difficult day, week, or month, I will make time to journal in a different environment. Now that it’s warm there are many beautiful places to plant myself in, free of distractions. It really helps keep my emotions balanced.

A lot of people are stuck in survival mode these days so it’s hard for them to focus on anything except, what’s necessary. That’s when I think we should try our hardest to map out time just to focus and check in on ourselves and how we are feeling and doing. If we don’t make the time to work on ourselves, we will be less than our selves and happiness will be a lot harder to achieve.

Listen to your body. It is always giving you signs.

sapphiredawn · 2025-05-19T16:16:12+00:00

I think it’s easy for people these days to mimic or model emotional maturity without ever really knowing what it feels like, how to obtain it, or how to spot its lack or development in others. Since there’s no agreed upon maturity model, we struggle to identify others that are working on emotional maturity. And since emotional maturity is a prerequisite to practicing emotional discipline, I think we need to build our recognition muscles maybe?

Shah_M44 · 2025-05-24T01:18:22+00:00

Emotional mastery isn’t about suppressing feelings; it’s about directing them with wisdom and purpose. Remmy Henninger - "How to Turn Failure into Your Superpower."

Title	RP women, what are we doing to build our emotional discipline ?
Author	Few-Ant-5425
Upvotes	38
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Date	May 12, 2025 3:15 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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