She Flaked, I was mildly salty, now what? (convo attached below)

No-Buyer-6278 · 2025-05-18T07:08:29+00:00

Please just find a new one. Women who act this way aren’t worth it even if they’re hot. It’s disrespectful and annoying and they get away with it because of men allowing it. People will come in here and explain your game failures, why it’s your fault, etc etc but you both agreed on a date and she ignored you. She clearly doesn’t respect you at all if she pulls this after months. Should have left her on read. Bitches like this need to know there are repercussions to this kind of behaviour.

Lenovo_Driver · 2025-05-18T04:49:40+00:00

How is that even possible to happen after you e been dating for several months?

I assumed that this was your first meetup from the messages..

After “dating” for that long I’m going to presume yall have had sex already. If that’s not the case, you’re not dating.

liftingnstuff · 2025-05-18T02:40:33+00:00

You guys have been dating for a couple of months and she's flaking on you without even giving you a heads up. Move on bro. That's just disrespectful

OverSaltyFry · 2025-05-18T02:25:22+00:00

A lot of issues here tbh, there’s nothin fun about what you asked of her

Dinner isn’t really fun, it’s over investment, it’s you sittin across the table from her having a boring convo tryna court her. There’s nothing adventurous, didn’t provide a novel fun experience to take her along with in YOUR LIFE. You’re basically sayin, I’ll save my scarce Saturday night just to have dinner with you.

Next you’re basically asking her, after a long week, to trek her way all the way down for a boring interaction. These texts have no playfulness/ sexual tension in them, she’s expecting the same vibe when y’all hang at dinner. You didn’t make it easy for her and just say where to meet, and saying some fun lil event to hit together n get drinks or somethin/smoke.

Large ask + taking value + low interest = flake

Small ask + giving value + high interest = her following naturally

She basically says at the end of her text that you’re asking a large chore like commitment without much upside

ciscokid12345 · 2025-05-18T02:00:22+00:00

obviously you’re not a priority to her. so one of a couple things happened

you did not build enough attraction in your approach.
she’s just not that into you.

Girls that have the hook set properly will cancel on a funeral to be with you.

Heavy_Consequence441 · 2025-05-18T04:00:12+00:00

Dude if a chick flakes just leave her on read... don't even dignify or put in the effort for a response.

This is also why you line up multiple chicks on one night, bc u know females just flakey af

PeterLamb87 · 2025-05-18T17:35:51+00:00

Flaking = dump her. Life can gets busy, but unless she cancelled with proper timing and ask to reschedule, you dump her and you dump her fast. Cancelling a date with short notice or 0 notice is a Big sign of disrespect and disinterest in any aspect of life.

senseofphysics · 2025-05-18T03:46:53+00:00

I feel like you asked her last minute, no? Especially because lien you said she has a new job and an awkward schedule.

Give 3 days for a date.

Also, I agree with u/OverSaltyFry in that the date plan doesn’t indicate much excitement. It sucks she took so long to reply, but don’t take personally, even if she continues to flake.

I’m sure you know this, but your last few texts can convey your saltiness.

RoutineHorror5676 · 2025-05-18T15:33:16+00:00

Sounds like a solid plan. Carry on.

Grackboundcheck · 2025-05-18T19:57:03+00:00

Well sometimes you gotta acknowledge, it's just not gonna happen.

I mean you can try again. But don't get your hopes up.

Now what ? You move on that's what.

Stay strong my guy.you'll come across many like that in your journey

DylanDaBeastMan · 2025-05-18T01:53:38+00:00

Yup wait and see, if not she wasn't worth your time bro

Ok_Response_303 · 2025-05-20T04:28:33+00:00

I had to cut off a girl who agreed to go out with me on Saturday but on Friday she ghosted me and the same day I ran into her at a party and she left and made excuses on why she ghosted me so I told her I don’t like playing games and to have a good day.

keep in mind I didn’t creep her out at all, she was showing interest and flirting with me and all of a sudden just went ghost.

tabure67 · 2025-05-21T17:11:39+00:00

Don't text her anymore. Act like you are unaffected by this. You are having a good time regardless of her.

A few months ago a girl from my work flaked. I did literally nothing after that. 3-4 weeks later she 'accidentally' called me from her private number, but I didn't want to play games.

dravenkaneki · 2025-05-18T02:36:44+00:00

It doesn’t sound like a big deal. If she’s going through anything and you both have been dating for a while then you deserve an explanation.

If you guys mean anything to each other but you think things are ending then you could reach out and ask if they’re okay and then ask if they see your relationship continuing if your worried.

If all is good then you should be comfortable to give a call and you guys could talk it out.

ea9ea · 2025-05-18T16:49:47+00:00

She's probably not going to reach out. It just doesn't work that way. You need to manage expectations but also you need to be a man. The way you talk looks weak and women notice that 10 times more.

Real men don't say lol. You think James bond says fucking lol? You can't ask a chick to a place in my hood. You have to tell them hey meet me here at this time. If they can't they'll let you know. This mildy salty? Fuck your feelings. This is how our culture works unfortunately. No one cares if your salty or little feelings got hurt. Man up.

No_Bite_7238 · 2025-05-18T20:42:08+00:00

Um no. She didn't flake. She was expecting a call from you to get an update on what you have planned for the date. Not only did you not deliver on what you said you'd do (calling her to update her the date plan) but you showed her that you're not reliable. So, she made separate plans with her friends because A) Unlike you, Her friends are reliable, B) Her making her own plans with her friends Minus YOU is her way of saying "You've been friend zoned!!!"

OP, if you say you're going to do something, then you do it. If something interferes with what you doing, then you call her and tell her what's changed. Either way, that phone call to her needed to happen.

Always have a plan ready!

PS. Her work has nothing to do with it. After you flaked by not calling her, she told you that she made "other plans."Other plans" means that she's already replaced you with someone else.

Title	She Flaked, I was mildly salty, now what? (convo attached below)
Author	woo2fly35
Upvotes	37
Comments	31
Date	May 18, 2025 1:50 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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