Competence Kills or Be Good At That Voodoo That You Do So Well!

crizty9 · 2025-06-05T13:12:09+00:00

I understand your argument that “competence slays” and it makes sense. This mindset needs to be used with caution by younger men, there are too many men out there that are providing resources and time to women they are interested in thinking that it will get them laid. Young women take advantage of those “helpful, nice guy” men while screwing a hot guy at the same time. You need to already have established your base appeal and frame before helping her fix broken stuff around the house or jump into professional help with things like legal issues or accounting.

Just because you help some chick fix her shit around the house, doesn’t mean you’re going to get laid.

Good post!

LatentShadow · 2025-06-05T18:40:29+00:00

Briffault's law : Relationship continues as long as there is some immediate advantage to the female. Attraction + usefulness = good time with women

SalporinRP · 2025-06-11T21:26:22+00:00

Competence, while it is often overlooked in favor of its sexy cousin, Confidence, absolutely SLAYS. Anything that removes female anxiety and lets them operate from their “girlfriend brain” or their "sexy brain"

In the last year or so I have 2 friends who got out of 5+ year relationships come to ask me for dating advice as they weren't seeing success despite being objectively reasonably handsome guys.

One actually had OK game over messages, but was the most passive pussy when it came to actually making plans. Constantly asking women where they wanted to go on dates, giving like week long ranges in terms of setting up plans, etc. It was ridiculous.

As you so pointedly mentioned, women love sitting back and letting someone competent take charge so they can just have a good time.

Guys are too logical. If someone were to ask us for drinks we'd love to be asked for our opinion for many reasons.

When you ask a woman to even do something as simple as choose a place for a first date what is actually going through her brain is a string of anxieties.

AnonTheGreat01 · 2025-06-30T08:16:19+00:00

Competence, while it is often overlooked in favor of its sexy cousin, Confidence, absolutely SLAYS.

This has always annoyed me about most women. And also men.

Too many men with that loud mouth type of confidence, but without any competence to back it up.

And too many women who cannot tell the difference between the two, giving their youth to men who eventually amount to nothing.

Truth is, confidence without competence generates far more tingles than the other way around. Competence is 90% for yourself and your children. Not your woman.

EdvardMunch · 2025-06-05T12:43:17+00:00

Slay queen!

FinallyRed · 2025-06-08T20:56:08+00:00

What about my golf ball through a garden hose talent?

kyle_fall · 2025-06-12T12:32:06+00:00

Yeah most men are quite useless, if you build on your skillset daily you should be above 99% of men in no time.

Accomplished-Faux · 2025-07-24T01:33:51+00:00

u/vasiliyzaitzev

Always good to see the Uncle Vaz aka The Don of TRP back with a post.

After many years of ‘stuffin’ young muffin’ as you put it some time ago, I currently date a smoking hot 23 year old BioChem PhD student. I’m 34.

I can confirm with everything you’ve written here. My gf constantly tells me how she never has to worry when I’m around and that everything seems to work out. More recently she’s been say “you’re just right about everything”. I’ve channeled my inner Uncle V with “well of course, don’t you know who I am?”

Cheers Uncle V, you’re a guiding light for many of the lost boys searching for truth.

Edit: Threesomes have been the current flavor with this one, and I’ve been flexing my knot tying skills. “The X” as we call (St. Andrew’s cross) it is her favorite equipment of choice.

FailNo6036 · 2025-06-06T16:43:15+00:00

So do you have any advice for becoming competent?

therealwoujo · 2025-06-16T16:03:10+00:00

I agree with everything here, but I will add 2 caveats:

1) You should only do favors for women that have worked for it. In all these examples, the girls were deeply in a relationship with OP and had done things to deserve his validation, attention, and favors. If a woman has done nothing for you, you should not be doing this shit for them.

2) Competence is attractive, but I might argue that Confidence is more attractive. Confidence is the emotional mechanism by which women decide whether a man is competent is not, and oftentimes a man who is confident but not competent beats out a man who is competent but not confident.

Here is my blurb on this question from a book I am working on:

In the chapter about Emotional Experiences, I explained that women are attracted to the alpha male because he has a superhuman ability, both physical and emotional, to confront challenges and the unknown. You can call this ability competence. For our evolutionary ancestors, competence mostly meant “good at physical combat” but for modern humans competence means “good at everything.” The alpha male is the alpha male because he can solve any problem the tribe may encounter, whether it is an evil monster from the woods, a difficult math problem, or a beta needing emotional comfort.

The most obvious way a man can show is competence is by actually defeating difficult challenges in front of women. But there is an even more important way that a man can show competence: Confidence. In the jungle, it is often hard to tell who the more badass ape is before the fight starts, so women must rely on the ape’s demeanor and body language when deciding what side to choose. Humans have a tendency to act confident when they think they will succeed, and anxious when they think they will not, so by observing a man’s demeanor, body language, and words, womens’ subconscious brains can make an educated guess as to who will win the fight.

For modern people, relying on confidence as an indicator of competence is often stupid, and tons of women end up with stupid, weak losers because those guys project the emotion of confidence even though they have nothing to back it up. In fact, in modern capitalist society the most successful guys are often the most anxious, self-critical, and neurotic. And on the flipside, there are whole subcultures in modern society, like hip hop, devoted to pretending to be rich and competent even though you have nothing to back it up. Nevertheless, in womens’ subconscious minds, confidence is often a more important indicator of competence than success itself.

MrAnderzon · 2025-06-05T17:53:31+00:00

the new and inexperienced would say uncle is bragging

the experienced and ones who’ve lived it would say yeah i remember that too

thanks uncle

Title	Competence Kills or Be Good At That Voodoo That You Do So Well!
Author	VasiliyZaitzev
Upvotes	56
Comments	30
Date	June 5, 2025 10:05 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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