Why I am single

Anonymous-Man-2024 · 2025-06-23T06:43:11+00:00

Embrace rejection You're never going to win in life if you are afraid of uncomfortable situations.

Go and do it so what if you are ridiculed. It's so little in the big picture of life.

Approach her by picturing it in your mind 100 times. When you do it for real it will be simple.

Stop making it a big deal on your head. It really is not.

fahif · 2025-06-23T07:13:31+00:00

I think you should approach them in a casual manner, instead of going in too heavy right at the beginning. Something like "hey, I actually find you really cool and I'd love to take you out sometime." With words swapped out as you like. This will make it less likely for you to look stupid instead of writing "i have loved you since ive laid my eyes on you, please be my lover" or whatever. In general though, there are people who would make fun of you regardless of how you approach them because of their insecurity and lack of empathy, so be aware of that.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-06-23T14:34:21+00:00

1.) first one is that I'm afraid that she will tell everyone that I proposed her and I'll be the center of their mockery and they'll make fun of me

Even if she didn't tell everyone that fact that you propose to a woman that you haven't even kissed is not going to work. That's not how you get into relationships with any girl. That's not how relationships start. That's not how dating works. So while yes there is a risk that she might make fun of you, the problem is that even if she is nice and doesn't tell anyone, it still will lead to literally every girl you try this thing with to reject you. Remember this, you don't get a girlfriend by proposing to her and declaring your absolute commitment to a girl you have not been sexually involved with first, without labels. In other words, first kissing must happen at the very least, sex ideally, and then you might consider asking her for exlcusivity after those things happen first. You don't ask for exclusivity first, then hope she says yes, so that you can then begin your first kiss after she has said yes, and then sex. that's not the correct order.

2.) secondly I'm thinking that I will not be able to communicate with them because if they reject me I'll not be able to look in their eyes ..

You have to mature still to understand that rejections will happen to you and to everyone and it's normal. Maturing is learning to habdle rejections gracefully, not avoiding them like immature boys do. But like i said, before, the proccess of getting a girlfriend is not by proposing or promising to lover her as if you are asking for marriage. That's not how it's done. You still have a lot to learn, i suggest you read books like models to learn more about how dating is actually done because you clearly have no clue.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-06-23T10:21:48+00:00

Approach women that you will never meet again / that won't affect your social circle or reputation if you get rejected. Why do you think so many guys approach random women on the street or in a nightclub? For this very reason!!
If they reject you - why do you worry about communicating with them after? Again, i think this is because you're thinking of approaching women in your social circle. Which you should not be doing when you're in learning mode!

Life-Income2986 · 2025-06-23T07:39:37+00:00

Why don't you socialise with the people you're interested in getting to know and see if you like them and they like you first before you go asking them out?

bmcapers · 2025-06-24T05:10:29+00:00

Dude. Just think of it as broadening your social network. You know how you broaden your network at work and it elevates your value and income? Apply that same model to social life. Just build a social network.

Independent_Top4040 · 2025-06-24T06:55:31+00:00

Bro, if you are scared to even approach a girl. That’s so far away from getting a girlfriend. You don’t even know how to flirt or read women’s interest or know which girl to go for in your social circle. Cold approach to girlfriend is insanely hard, you probably need so many approaches which would require insane courage.

invisibletraveler2 · 2025-06-24T12:21:36+00:00

This deserves much more expansion than this. But no one is ever going to see value in you if you don't see value in yourself.

If you don't know why they would want to go out with you, why would they want to?

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-06-24T23:15:31+00:00

if you a certain frame of mind you must rehearse it, if you want a result you must rehearse it , looks like you need to rehearse other things in your brain my friend, you need some ineer game work.

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-06-24T23:16:32+00:00

you should study inner game stuff, there is an old tape unstoppable confidence by ross jeffries on youtube, itsl ike 1 hour long, listen to that stuff and do the exercises !

NicoBourbaki3 · 2025-06-23T06:26:56+00:00

1 was literally my first reason when I was in school, haha.

Title	Why I am single
Author	AppropriateCelery905
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Comments	27
Date	June 23, 2025 6:10 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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1 was literally my first reason when I was in school, haha.