Recently, ended things with a guy I was seeing for about 3 months.. Met him off an App, moved off there and texted until he had mentioned he was still talking to another woman that was soon to end due to it not really working. I didn’t want to get into the middle of that, so I let him know that and he understood, wishing me the best and that was the end of it. Weeks later, he hits me up again.. silly me decides to respond he tells me how he’s surprised I hadn’t blocked him after our last conversation. Anyways we get to talking, but I’m still being cautious but friendly of course.. & randomly he tells me how he wanted to only focus on me and he feels like we were potentially a great match, how he’s deleted the app and blah blah blah. I found it to be so sweet and it was naive of me to believe in that somewhat.. fast forward, we get to talking then plan our first date. When talking on our first date we spoke about the app a bit and how long we’ve been on it and he tells me that same day he was just on there like a few hours ago just talking to people , nothing more and how he didn’t know that I wanted something exclusive after I made that pretty obvious on my profile.. & (after telling me on text he deleted it and wanted to focus on me , which I never told him to do!) honestly I should’ve decided to go home right then and there because that was an automatic redflag to me..however I didn’t end it there. 🤦‍♀️ I decided to overlook that and we talked some more.. went on more dates and over time I started to see more and more red flags which I’ll list here. : - he had a Snapchat where he sent nudes to people, girls I guess through the quick add

  • cheated once (that I know of )

-says he doesn’t think before doing things

-his brother who has a wife and 4 kids sends him pics of femboys

-claims to like girls yet had that Threesome vid 2 guys 1 girl the other man behind the other man and you know..

  • when he was showing me his spank bank he warned me that it wasn’t all “straight” videos

-is sorry when caught, honest only when caught

  • his actions speak louder than his words , (he claimed he deleted apps and what not to focus on me then I found out he was back on there, TWICE , also said his ex also found him on there when giving him a massage, he hadn’t been forthright on his own )

  • Said he was easy (pretty much any girl that wants to have sex with him he’d be down unless they’re overweight and I assume aren’t std free)

-porn addict (says he use to be, I believe he still is)

  • Has a long distance “friendship” with a girl he’s known since 15 and they use to talk sexual, he didn’t see the issue on why I wasn’t comfortable with them still being “friends” and only blocked her to make me “feel better” . Which most likely he has unblocked her now since we no longer talk.

He knew these things made me feel some kind of way and he claimed to have changed and that was his “past” but these old habits die hard. I caught him on the app TWICE when he was showing me his photos and I believe if I hadn’t seen it he would’ve still been on there.. when he was caught he was telling me he just wanted to talk to some people as if there aren’t any other platforms to communicate with people? Why a dating app? I just want to know ladies if I was overreacting by these “minor” issues he would call what I listed, what would you have done? and not giving him the chance to show me he changed? (He’s older than me by like 3 years btw)