This seems to be a recurring theme in my life in the end of my marriage along with the early years of divorce and other parts of my life as well.

In my marriage I could come home from working all day, take care of the kids, help with dishes and help with bedtime and I’d get the whole. “Yeah but you didn’t do XYZ” from my ex. This made me very angry because it seems like it discounted all the things I did right, all the effort I put forth, and there’s no recognition of anything I did right.

After my divorce, my mother along with other members of my family told me I should co-parent better with my ex, even though I explained to them that I’ve been much more compliant and workable with coparenting post divorce than she has. In the same way “yes you scheduled a birthday party and handled everything, but it wasn’t on a day that worked for your ex”

I don’t really know what to say, I’m not sure why this offends me or why I react so strongly to it. It just seems like nothing is ever going to be enough for people sometimes. I’ve been to therapy many times but haven’t been on a few months because of the expense of it.

I feel like my ego is fragile now after being beaten down by my toxic marriage, and comments like this are offensive to me. does anyone have any advice on what to do on a personal mental health standpoint. It sucks, I want to have better relationships in my family and friends. But can’t stop feeling offended by my minor shortcomings. All in all I think I am capable hardworking person, a good dad, and a good friend. I just seem to be less “go with the flow”, more stubborn and more sensitive. I’m not currently on medication because SSRIs and other meds seem to exacerbate sexual dysfunction and sleep issues. Anyone been through something like this?