Unsure of what to do

Witty_Aardvark4116 · 2025-07-08T22:29:15+00:00

Have you been a good emotional supportive partner to her? and ask her where it stems from ..how you can help her ? Code words for when she feels it coming on and ideas on how to reduce / stop it ? Does she feel emotionally safe with you or do you downplay / dismiss her anxieties like it’s an annoyance ? Idk my ex left me because of my anxiety , but never asked why or what was the cause … didn’t feel like I could tell him certain words he said was was his dad said to me when he assaulted me… but perhaps you have been …just please don’t give up and try effort lusting over single life .

HistoricalRich280 · 2025-07-04T07:33:12+00:00

No kids. Wonderful. Do it.

Boliviascott · 2025-07-03T22:24:10+00:00

I will tell you as a man much older than you when i went through my divorce you will at first find it difficult on the male companion part. Your friends who are married will drift away from you as their wives wont like them hanging with a new single man and you are a reminder for every cpl of what could happen to them. BUT dont let that control your decision. If you need to get out of the marriage and are 100% sure it is not going to work then the sooner the better for financial reasons and of course your sanity. You will experience being alone but that is not the same as loneliness. You will make friends and get your life back

NewDay0110 · 2025-07-03T19:11:33+00:00

No kids? Do it! You will be fixing the mistake you made 2 years ago by binding yourself to that legal contract with the government. This early, there will be minimal consequences to you. If you have kids, or are married for longer you have really messy issues like alimony and custody issues, more assets to split and it just gets more expensive and more damaging. Get out now while its easy!!!

Able_Buy_7859 · 2025-07-03T17:02:23+00:00

I'm going to be honest, there's no way anyone can know how bad the divorce and post divorce are going to be. It will be a life changing event. Your life will change drastically.

Rugger2row · 2025-07-03T14:27:07+00:00

As someone who had kids with someone with crippling anxiety, get out now. It's tough because you care for them but impossible to bring up and resolve isssues. You will be walking on eggshells until you eventually resent her so much you no longer give a shit.

Sorry you are going through this. It is really rough.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-07-03T14:17:48+00:00

Trust your gut. If you're not happy and you've made it clear, maybe it's time to move on. Be thankful there's no kids.

ImpermanentSelf · 2025-07-03T14:15:07+00:00

Odds are she didn’t just develop this, she just stopped hiding it.

If shes not in therapy and actually trying to work on it walk away.

Title	Unsure of what to do
Author	gwp906
Upvotes	4
Comments	17
Date	July 3, 2025 2:11 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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