How to get women at clubs

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-07-09T16:11:47+00:00

Mate, seduction in the nightclub is not about chasing or hunting women, it's about attracting them so they choose to come to you. Your job is to figure out how to become the gravitional pull in the room.

You do that when you become the life of the party, dance like no one's watching you, and not paying attention to women at all. Tha'ts when they join u.

women are drawn to the guy who’s already creating the fun without them. Theh guy whos dancing without self-consciousness, vibing with the music, making the bartender smile, sparking energy in the room... That's when they join your vibe

Women don’t want to feel like someone is trying to get something from them, they want to feel like they’re joining something bigger. Your vibe becomes the invitation. Not your approach, not your compliments,...

The moment you stop looking for them and instead become the vibe, they start looking for you.

So have fun in the club all by yourself, do like a little kid who dances on his own at music because it's fun for him and is lost in the music not caring what anybody else thinks. Show that you are not afraid to dance like no one's watching, even if you dance like shit, teh fact that you don't care how ridicilous you look, attracts attention from women. That's when they relax and are more likely to want to join you.

But if you go there to hunt, to seek an outcome, to get a number, to hit on them.. That energy gets them defensive and repels them instantly more often than not.

i'm telling u to have fun, to make yoruself be noticed, to show that you are not self-concious and don't need anything from women at all even if you talked to them. When u do that, it's very easy to get girls to join u and when they join u to dance with you, it's up to u to lead it into flirtation while you dance with them to escalate things.

liftingnstuff · 2025-07-09T16:29:21+00:00

>I know a lot of people will give the advice of “just have fun with your friends, and women will come when you’re being your natural self” but I’ve been doing that for a very long time and never had any sort of success.

This is bad advice. Especially if you're average looking. It's your job to do the approaching. It's your job to initiate conversations that are non-platonic. It's your job to flirt to build attraction. If they're not interested after you've already flirted, just say "have a nice night" and move on to the next.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-07-09T11:58:28+00:00

See my post "nightclub guide", it has A-Z repeatable system on how to pull at the club. This "have fun stuff" is nonsense when you're learning. You can't have fun when you dont know what you're doing, learning new skills require conscious effort, which means that you'll be knocked out of the having fun mode.

Have fun only when you build up a good variety of skills you can rely upon to get results. You'll slowly transition into inner game once you get the hang of the outer game, thats when you should focus on having fun.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-07-09T13:15:47+00:00

At 20, just being confident and approaching will be ahead of like 90%+ of guys in that setting. That age is still in essence a high schooler, mentally, who perhaps rebels a bit more since they live off campus/away from home without direct accountability from parents for the first time; they'll otherwise still make stupid decisions and don't have a fully functioning brain just yet. Further, there's minimal life experience or actual self-awareness.

Doki_Doki_Doki · 2025-07-09T15:45:27+00:00

That sounds really tough, and I get how frustrating it can be to feel like you're putting in the effort but not seeing results. When I was your age, I faced similar challenges. Here are a few tips that helped me:

Body Language: Stand tall and open up your posture. Confidence can be really attractive.
Engage in Groups: Instead of approaching women directly, try chatting with a group. It often feels less intimidating.
Ask Open-Ended Questions: This encourages deeper conversations and shows you're genuinely interested.

Remember, it’s a numbers game. Keep putting yourself out there, and don’t lose hope! You've made great progress already.

Electrical-Farm8527 · 2025-07-09T11:31:16+00:00

Dress nice, there really is no formula overall. Sometimes they come up to me, others i was really direct, and others were simply opening a convo and being entertaining. Biggest thing is escalation reading body language and number game

Title	How to get women at clubs
Author	Independent-Virus146
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Date	July 9, 2025 11:17 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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