Is it okay to just chill and go on about your day if you’ve already been putting in cold approaches?

jamesfalken · 2025-07-28T20:13:53+00:00

No you never get to stop, keep the autism going full steam ahead.

SonOfSunsSon · 2025-07-28T20:24:12+00:00

Why even ask? you're the creator of your own life. Do what you want with it. Don't feel like approaching? then don't, it's that simple.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-07-28T20:09:55+00:00

If you think you'll regret it, you should approach. At the same time, game is hard, and it's okay to rest once in a while.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-07-28T18:19:08+00:00

Approach in your spare time and preferably while you're already out. Don't obsess over it. Then when you find a partner, you can lay low. I was lucky this go round to find my current girlfriend through a friend's introduction.

disaster-3321 · 2025-07-28T20:53:30+00:00

You making this post shoes you regret it. Not approaching hurts more than approaching.

LimbBisquet · 2025-07-29T02:25:11+00:00

One day you will figure out that there is nothing more pathetic and needy than being a desperate pussy hound who has to approach every woman he sees.

Bane_xr · 2025-07-29T11:07:03+00:00

It's a very subjective thing.

It depends on what each one of us wants out of life, our goals, etc. You can go as hard or as easy as you like. No rules about that.

If you regret it often when you don't, well, that tells you what you need to know.

If you don't regret it, that also tells you what you need to know.

And in either case, you can change both of those to fit what you want out of life.. It's all up to you.

My current goal is to destroy any hesitance, so i gotta go hard, but later when I've achieved what i wanted, i will back down a bit and focus on something different..

Again, it's all about what you are expecting from yourself, and you can change those expectations to some extent

So. How do you want to be like?

Edit: note that the outside can influence this, expectations others have can translate to you, and make you have the same expectations (without really knowing why).. if that's the case, then sit down and write for a bit about why you want/don't want this kind of expectation and figure out how you feel about it all.. A lot of times people just pick up expectations from others and go with it. And then feel terrible for no reason other than just well, that expectation.

Yet their internal setup is not aligned with those expectations, so they feel confused and lost when their actions don't meet those expectations..So they try to "force" themselves.. Etc. etc..

No-Comb-4355 · 2025-07-29T18:21:44+00:00

Mate, the whole point of learning cold approach is to try build an abundance mentality in dating, where the validation of any one girl means very little to you based on how you feel about yourself. So ffs, yes, making a conscious decision not to approach because you’re not in the mood is extremely valid. You not trying to be an approach robot doing 1000 approaches a month, you’re trying to create an integrated lifestyle that cold approach can supplement.

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-07-28T17:53:27+00:00

apporach apprach always like a machine every oportunity you get on your daily life

Ok_Investigator7568 · 2025-07-28T18:45:42+00:00

Depends if you think you need to breed that specific person

Title	Is it okay to just chill and go on about your day if you’ve already been putting in cold approaches?
Author	decal1210
Upvotes	1
Comments	13
Date	July 28, 2025 5:46 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1mbn0y9/is_it_okay_to_just_chill_and_go_on_about_your_day/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/is-it-okay-to-just-chill-and-go-on-about-your-day.1558338 https://theredarchive.com/post/1558338

Comments