I tried to post this a few months ago but I wasn’t being very clear. It didn’t resonate with many people.

I think so much of how our marriages failed can be explained by evolutionary psychology. Yes, men and women are equal but we think differently. I would highly recommend YT channel Modern Wisdom by Chris Williamson. He interviews many respected scholars, many of them women.

That’s half of the story. The other half is Midlife Crisis. That definitely explains much of my divorce, and how my ex changed into someone I don’t recognize. Would recommend Larry Bilotta, Kenda Ruth, Laurie McDermott, and a new YT channel called “Mid Life Crisis: Bombdrop and beyond”.

For any guy who had this happen earlier than 35 I would HIGHLY recommend Michelle Langley’s books. Expensive but really insightful. Accountable woman who explains from a female perspective and holds other woman to account.

I know most guys just say “hit the gym, lay off the booze, and work harder” but understanding has always helped me heal faster. Don’t we all want to actually learn from our mistakes? I say all this to keep you other men from slipping into bitterness, which is very easy but not really helpful.